to not have bought my friend's dog a birthday present?

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Went to a friend's house the other night and during the evening they mentionned that it was their dog's 1st birthday the next day. "Oh thats nice", said I, "are you going out for the day" etc. Yes they were going to the park. Lovely.

The next day we were texting about an upcoming event and she mentionned that several other mutual friends had bought the dog presents for his birthday. She didn't say so explicitly but the inference was 'they are obviously better friends than you, AWT'.

I should say we did get the dog one of those stocking things for Christmas but his birthday? Really? Do people buy presents for their friends' pets' birthdays?

And I should say there is a leetle bit of a back story in that I do not like dogs due to one biting my brother when we were tiny, and the friend in question was not happy when they got him that I would not allow the dog in our house. However at their house I have always been ambivalent towards it ie, not over friendly nor rude.

IABU? Do you buy your friends' pets' birthday gifts?

YANBU. It's a dog ffs.

YANBU

bloody nonsense

i couldn't tell you when my cats were born....some time in May I think

your friend is a loon

I take it they have no children?

They except you to treat their dog the same as they treat your child. Do you have children?

Do they buy your child birthday presents? If so, you should obviously bought the dog a present. Maybe some duplo to chew on.

Pull the other one.

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I have never heard anything so riduculous; i wouldn't ewven have got it a christmas present!

YABVVU - lol. The reality is they are being a bit nuts IMO. But I would humour them and buy the dog something small on its birthday.

or maybe a nice bonnet. And a rattle.

I wouldn't humour them at all, one day they will look back on this and bite their fists with embarrassment. Probably when they have children and put things into perspective. YANBU!

Thank goodness for that. I was beginnign to think I was the crazy one.

No- they don't have children yet and have said that they don't want any- so yes I think there is an element of treating the dog as a child going on. We are TTC at the moment and comparisons have already been made- the DH of the couple said 'you wont let our dog in your house but when you have a child you'll expect the baby to be allowed in the house.'. Er yes I will, you loon.

I don't even buy my friends' kids presents, no matter about their pets! Your friend is a loon :o

I love dogs, I have 2 of my own, but I wouldnt expect anyone to buy my dogs a birthday present.

I dont even buy my own dogs a present, well except a nice treat or a bone, but nothing out of the ordinary.

Some people are OTT.

they sound ignorant and annoying.

How do you overall feel about this friendship?

'you wont let our dog in your house but when you have a child you'll expect the baby to be allowed in the house.'

Words fail me... They sound a bit nuts!!!!!!!!!

(maybe he thinks a bowl of water outside for the baby will be enough...)

I take my friend's dog out for dinner and cocktails on his birthday and often a show. The year we went to see "Cats" wan't a great success though (boom boom).

YANBU. Although my kids want to have a party, with cake and presents for our two cats next month when it is two years since they joined us. I think the cats would rather we had a takeaway and a bottle of wine.

She's a loon! YANBU

As a dog owner, you would be laughed out of the house if you turned up with a present for the dog.

We do exchange presents with my mothers cat at Christmas though

Oh FFS. I did buy a dog an Xmas present last year (a bone chewy thing) because said hound had been subjected to intense bullying by our cat . It went alongside various very small things for other family members and was more of a jokey keep-the-neighbours-onside effort really.

Anyone else find the baby-style puppy toys on sale in petshops a bit odd?We went to get a new litter tray for ASBO-cat and were a bit amazed at the pastel-coloured puppy toys. I know, it's a free country 'n' all but it seemed a wee bit bizarre.

Your friends is barking (pun intended )

YANBU! I bloody hate dogs and I have also refused to have a friend's (very large) dog in my (very small) flat. Luckily, she was fine about it. I didn't even buy my best friend a birthday present this year because I am so skint, so there's no way I'd buy anything for a dog!

I think it was v. nice that you actually asked if they were going out anywhere for the dog's birthday. How did you manage to keep a straight face?

thank you all, you have restored my faith in normal people accepted social norms.

Junkcollector ROFL at going to see Cats!

Thank God its not just me. I wouldn't have minded so much if there had been a party- at least that would have meant cake....even if it meant finding new friends afterwards....