to be naffed of with my older sister

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it was my dc 10 b/day this week and she forgot along with her 2 grown up children who are also dc godparents.
I was not annoyed but sad for dc.dc is younest in family and has some learning problems.dc got up day after b/d and said xyz have all forgotten me,i am here y know....:(

anyhow sis called last night apologizing to me,i pointed out it was not me she let down

she turned it round as always to how she has so much to do and how stressfull it is looking after and trying to help her own family she has 2 dc grown up and 1 well behaved teen.

i pointed out the 2 older ones are adults and can indeed help themselves both earn good money and are secure in jobs and r/ships

sorry its long, she got arsey saying wait til mine get older then i will see how hard it is.......wtf

i am always glas half full fairly non confrontational and have stood by sis when rest of family have not spoken to her over te years

i said if she was gonna get arsey just forget it and put the phone down...... now i feel bad but she just bangs on about her hardship...we both work full time i have 2 dc so one less i guess but i dont see my life any easier i just see her as a martyr.how horrible do i sound :(

So she fucked up? It happens.

I'm a forgetful twerp but fortunately my family just take the piss. They don't lecture me about how easy my life is and how I have no excuse.

YABU - She has apologised. In future you could remind her about DCs birthday a few days before. It is not a huge deal to be late with birthday wishes from those most important to us - it happens in my (huge) family all the time. It is your DCs special day and not worth getting upset about

YABU. Next time, drop her a line a week before and say, DC would so love it if s/he heard from you....

It's a birthday- that's all. I often forget my nieces and nephews and they forget ours. We catch up

We are all busy people living busy lives.

Just get over it and move on.

Sounds like you have sister issues and this is just an excuse to make up something else to feel pissed off about. No way do you sound glass half full.

Sorry but you did ask on am I being unreasonable. Yes you are

And btw I'm sorry that you dc was sad about this. There are ways of dealing with it so they don't take it so personally. They don't always have to know they were forgotten :(

thanks
i didn't do the lecturing though, i just pointed out that they can help themselves.

trust me, it doesnt get any less stressful once they are grown up children, if anything, it is worse!