Hi, first time posting here, just need to know if I am being unreasonable in being flabbergasted by this phone call this evening:- Story ( will try to keep it as short as possible), went out on Sat night with 3 friends have known them all since dc were small etc etc, we all have dd's (14yrs), anyway chat goes to how the girls are doing etc etc, mum 1 states that dd is just out of control at the moment and she dosn;t know how to reign her in says dh has washed his hands of her and is no support etc etc, my dd was very good friends with Mum 1's child up until about 6 months or so ago, they just sort of moved on as you do, dd still see's her though at school and has told me how she had really changed and is not the same girl she used to be etc. etc. has a boyfriend who's 16 and has left school already, goes out a lot to the park comes in late, hangs around with 1 girl who is just trouble etc etc, dd has also told me that there are rumours that she has been drinking etc etc, anyway did not disclose any of this at all to Mum 1 yuntil she comes out with the "I just don't know what she gets up to when she's out", at this point I tell her that dd has heard that she has been drinking, Mum 1 went very defensive and said that she has asked this and she has told her no, we all sort of said well it's up to you what to beleive and gave tips/advise on how to "gain back control", Mum 1 was very quiet for the rest of the evening but did not say another word on the matter and we moved on, chatting away as normal. DD went in to school today ( has been off Mon/Tues), and was approached by friend of Mum 1's dd, who told her that friend A is really really annoyed with her as she has now been grounded and it's all my dd fault for telling me and then me telling her mum that she's been drinking - dd bumbled through conversation and told her that she did not know what she was talking about and had to get to next lesson, was then approached by Mum 1's dd and another girl who said that they wanted a word with her - dd said she knew what they were going to say and told them that she had no idea what was going on and knew nothing about it - mum 1 dd told my dd that her mother had said that I had a real "go" at her called her a bad mother and accused her of not taking any parental care ! so.......... sorry this is long, I text Mum and ask her to give me a call this evening when she is fee, she does and the frost down the phone was unbeleivable, told me that she was very very upset that my dd had been spreading rumours about her dd and she did not ake kindly to the way me and the other 2 spoke down to her and basically told her that she was a crap mother - was flabbergasted and told her that she invited us to help and give advise and information given to her was on hearsay by dd - i did tell her that I did not know if it was true or not, also asked her why she had told her dd that it was me and my dd that had informed her, asked her if she was wise in letting her dd know where her information came from - her response was " well you did not say if was in confidence so I told her what you said" I have grounded her and am taking control of my family now and want you to know that I will not have vicious rumours being spread about my dd by your dd !!! told her that the information was asked for and given to help if I/we could, so am I in the wrong or is she being unreasonable here ? thanks