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What was the most important thing about your wedding day,and what does marriage mean to you ?

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goingtothechapel · 23/03/2011 21:00

I'm just curious because these two things mean alot to me,and I want to hear your opionions?,before I say I do?.

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redexpat · 23/03/2011 22:15

Having a NICE TIME and not bankrupting anyone.

Marriage is showing the world that we are committed to living our lives together and are a team.

YouMakeMeWannaLaLa · 23/03/2011 22:15

Wedding: a day off and chance to drink alcohol at 10am, giggle and sign a piece of paper.

Marriage: provision and recognition for us if he dies.

Romantic!

Portofino · 23/03/2011 22:22

"Marriage to me means enjoying all the good times, managing the bad times, being each other's best friend, support and lover and sticking to our vows." What 444 said. With bells on.

Your Dp's family sounds pretty solid. If I were you I would sneak off and do the deed and throw a big party after. Personally I do not understand that it takes 19 months of planning and stress to get married.

rubyrubyruby · 23/03/2011 22:37

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sayithowitis · 23/03/2011 22:49

Best thing on the day: making our vows to each other in front of our family and friends, knowing that (almost) every one of them was genuinely happy for us and happy to be sharing the day with us.

Best thing about our marriage: seeing and feeling the vows we made on that day put into practice every day of our life. Knowing that 'in sickness and in health' really means that, understanding that 'for better or for worse' means that sometimes things will get rocky, but that we will come through it, believing totally in our promise to be faithful to each other and knowing we can trust each other on that. Knowing that we are there to support each other whenever we need it and still, nearly 30 years after our wedding day, being able to laugh together.

And the sex is bloody good too Grin

Mrswhiskerson · 23/03/2011 23:55

I remember coming out of the church with the biggest smile on my face bcause the man I love more than anything in the world was now
my husband ,
the wedding night ;)

Goodynuff · 24/03/2011 04:14

On the "big day" the most important thing was getting through it Grin DH and I met, fell in love, and got engaged very quickly. Then he backed out, worried that we were too young. It shook my confidence, because I was sure to the bones of me, that this was the man I was meant to be with. We didn't see each other for 6 months (I had left town, no phone), and the first time we ran into each other again, we got back together. He had been looking for me all that time. Within 6 months, the wedding was back on. Until we were actually exchanging the vows, I kept worrying that he might change his mind. He didn't Grin YAY!
The most important part of being married, what it truly means to me, is that no matter what happens, for the rest of my life, there is someone who has my back. He would do anything to take care of me. And I would do the same for him. We have been married for 12 years so far, and I am more sure than ever.

seoraemaeul · 24/03/2011 04:50

The nicest thing anyone ever said about our wedding was one of the hotel staff who commented that she'd never seen such a "smiley" wedding Grin and how happy everyone was.
Marriage to me is about balancing each other out .... whether it means sometimes picking up the slack to support the other through a rough patch or complimenting each other as team because you both bring different things to life and the relationship.

iscream · 24/03/2011 05:45

OP, do your parents live at all near you? Perhaps you could have a small private wedding with only parents and your witnesses, then go away?
Or, elope with your friends and records the ceremony, you can give your dad (and mom) a copy to enjoy.

iscream · 24/03/2011 05:47

I should have said, both sets of parents, your children and your witnesses/friends there.

2littlegreenmonkeys · 24/03/2011 06:01

The most important thing about mine & DH's wedding day for me was to be finally marrying the man I love and adore, even better that our families and friends were able to share our day with us.

The fact that DH and I declared our love and respect for each other was the happiest moment of my life up until that point. Having our DD's now being the best moment of my life (and I am sure DH's lol)

I adore being married and I adore my DH I don't for one second regret marrying DH and I hope neither of us ever will.

noodle69 · 24/03/2011 06:02

I was organising wedding and it was too much fuss with family having to travel from miles away. (My husband and I are from opposite ends of the country)

In the end my husband and I went off to the Carribean to do it on our own and we loved it.

Squitten · 24/03/2011 07:28

The most important thing about the wedding day was having all of our friends and family with us to publicly celebrate our commitment to each other - it was a really fun day.

Obviously, being married doesn't mean that it can't all go horribly wrong in a few years but I at least feel like we have begun our family life with the same commitment and I love being able to remember that every time I look down at my wedding rings

Chandon · 24/03/2011 07:31

marriage: the two of us against the world until the end of times.

The wedding: to celebrate this commitment and bring our two families and our friends together.

Also a nice opportunity to wear a great dress and for everyone to have a good party.

exoticfruits · 24/03/2011 07:40

The day was a public commitment to each other, a lovely day with friends and family (and lots of DCs) and becoming part of each other's family. (I hate it when people think they marry a man in isolation-you don't-you get granny, great aunt Mabel etc etc)

Marriage is growing old together-sharing the ups and downs for ever-coming first with each other and loyalty is very important to me.

ithaka · 24/03/2011 07:47

My 1 year old niece in the arms of my lovely nana. My nana is now dead and my niece is 18 - where do the years go? When I look back, I am so glad my nana had her first great grandchild in her arms at my wedding.

I am not sure what my marriage means to me. We have been together so long it is my 'natural' adult state and we have been through highs and lows, births and bereavements through the years. I am lucky that we are still in love and (usually!) pretty compatible. I literally cannot imagine my life without my husband - scary thought.

NinkyNonker · 24/03/2011 07:58

The most important bit was the church, and I loved the quiet 5 mins in the car after, just the 2 of us... I wanted to just keep driving!

Marriage means being each others best friend, strength, 'true North'. Always being on each other's side, being a team. Being your own unit.

purepurple · 24/03/2011 08:03

The most important thing on the day was that we were both totally committed and knew we were doing the right thing.

Marriage is an adventure and we both support each other and are looking forward to growing old(er) together.

MyLifeIsChaotic · 24/03/2011 08:10

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upahill · 24/03/2011 08:11

The actual day wan't a big deal for me tbh. I wasn't fussed about being a bride. I think it ment more to DH and his family than me and they did all the sorting out.

However being married means everything to me. We have been married 15 years this year and it is great.

I can't put in word how I feel but I like it being 'us'

scaryteacher · 24/03/2011 08:18

Getting married was the most important thing about our wedding day, and almost 25 years on it has been the most wonderful ride. It's had it's ups and downs of course, but dh is my rock and I couldn't do without him.

It's been fascinating watching him change and mature, but the guy with the wicked sense of humour I married is still there under all the gravitas.

I can't see why it takes so long to plan a wedding wither - I sorted mine out in six weeks flat from start to wedding day.

HMTheQueen · 24/03/2011 09:46

On the day, the most important thing to me, was making sure that the nurses got DH's morphine right so that he was awake and not in pain when it came to saying the vows.

Now, it's the recognition that we demonstrated our love and committment for each other for the rest of our lives in front of friends and family (even though DH died three days later - I am still married to him - and always will be). Smile

exoticfruits · 24/03/2011 19:21

Me too scaryteacher-6 weeks from deciding- to the day itself-it all went well.

shakey1500 · 24/03/2011 19:54

The best bit was the stonking great bottle of champagne thrust into my open reluctant hands at the wedding reception.

Well seriously, lots of good memories. A happy day despite the fact it poured down ALL day. One of my best memories was going down for breakfast at 8am and passing my nanna (RIP) who at the age of 82 cheerfully told me she was headed to bed as she'd only just finished drinking "with the boys".

For me marriage means surviving the toughest of times, coming out the other side and feeling invincible together.

kerrymumbles · 24/03/2011 19:57

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