to tell DD1 that she can't go to Youth Club tonight

[TrinityIsABunnyMunchingRhino]

Thought I'd post here for some honest opinions

I'm a little scared though

dd1 used to go to afterschool care and then youth club in the same building so I sent her with tea and picked her up after youth club

she then said she didn't want to go anymore

then the after school club shut houaf an hour earlier and the youth club started half an hour later

so as it stand now I need to pick her up at 5.30 and then drop her off again at 6.300 to pick her up at 8.30

today I have already done 4 up and down trips to town to take the kids where they need to be and her goinf to youth club will make it 7 instead of 5

Can I say this week as I'm knackered and really just dont want to drive anymore and might go to bed with the little girls

some atrocious typos and missed words there, sorry

I dont like to ask because we are almost three miles from my friends house and she has a little one

so I feel rude asking her to come so far out of her way

it wouldn't be so bad but since last thursday I have had some hideous head cold thing and felt just about as energetic as a dead rabbit

but she really wants to go this week, I feel guilty

anyone else?

oh the other thing is we are very strapped for cash right now and she would need a pound to get in and she would want £1.50 for snacks

we would be ok next week but with her birthday and needing to fix the car (gearbox went) this week, we are strapped right now

I've also just found out that we have completely run out of heating oil and cant get any more

just dont want to be driving up and down tonight

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Put your foot down. Running her back from after school and then back an hour later and then having to pick her up afterwards is ridiculous.

Can the two clubs not make arrangements to have someone watch the children in the hour between? They've caused the issue.

But otherwise I'm afraid I'd be saying no to the youth club anymore. Factor in petrol and the other costs and it's ridiculous.

yanbu, just explain your really tired, and would like to spend some time with her maybe? put on a dvd or watch some tv, throw in the bribery of half hour later to bed maybe?

put yer feet up trinity, you sound like you deserve to!

but its not fair to her to miss out cause we live on the outskirts of town is it?
I mean I'm not paying for the after school club at the mo and biy does it cost, cause social services are

they have decreed that she has to go as does dd2 (5) because I am causing her to not be socialised because of where I live

Quick question... you say in your op she didn't want to go anymore. Has she changed her mind back?

well yes, when it was very easy yto let her go because she was being pi ked up from school by after schoiol club and then staying there till youth club and therefore I was just picking her up

she said she didn't like it and it made her feel sick whilst she was there

she has anxiety issues and I did as a kid so I can feel where she is coming from

but then it got difficult to let her go with the time changes and the loads of runs to and from and then she said she wanted to go again

so I took her and she has enjoyed it (although it is making her tired as her normal bedtime is 7.300 for 8 lights out) but this week UGH
I just feel like I'm waiting to serve them tea, do teeth and bed and then fall over snoozing

I feel guilty that she hasn;t had many things to go to out of school

she has lots of friends at school but doesn't get incited to much, if anything out of school

I do also feel that being out of the house fro 8.30am and away from me shortly after till 8. 30 at night was a bit much so maybe why she saif she felt sick thwre, maybe tired or just plain wobbly

I dont know I feel bad about where qwe live especially as I#m getting a mortgage so we can keep the house after the estate is sorted
I just feel like I'm letting her down on all fronts

I tried to let her invite friends over for a sleepover but two of the three couldn't come as the parents didn;'t know me

I tiotally understand their point but HOW do I get to know them?

I'm useless

Trinity just tell her you are too tired. She has great empathy and will understand. No need to bring in any of the other reasons. Cuddle up and have an early night.