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to be happy yet upset that I'm having a third girl?

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ladyofla · 23/03/2011 13:54

I just found out this morning I am going to have a third girl. In my 12 week scan I was told it was 95% sure I was going to have a boy so even though we didn't tell anyone in case it wasn't a boy I had got used to the idea. I was sort of disappointed but at the same time relived at having another girl and mostly happy the baby is healthy. I was worried my DH might be disappointed but he is in fact delighted. In the couple of hours since then I have been a bit upset. I don't actually crave a boy as such and haven't been dreaming of blue or boy stuff but just thought maybe a change would be good. At the same time there is something very nice about having a third girl. I also feel so lucky to be having three kids when I know so many people having fertility problems and have friends who have just not met the right person to have kids with etc. The weird thing is that I think I am upset at what will be the reaction of people when I tell them. I have already had comments about how I must want a boy etc. It seems sometimes that other people have more hang ups about it being a boy or girl than the parents. I'm sure I will have some nice but almost commiserating type comments and I think I am more upset at the prospect of all these reactions than anything else. Does this make any sense? Has anyone else been in the same situation?

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ladyofla · 24/03/2011 19:03

The other thing that is bugging me is that we always said we would have 4 kids but my DH wants to stick with 3 now. I just like the idea of 4 and 4 girls would be fine as I'm not sure about having a 1 boy with just older sisters anyway (might be a bit tough on the boy?). Either way I like the idea of 4 as they tend to pair off an noone is left out iyswim. I suppose a 4th child is a way off and I could talk my DH around but his comments about not wanting a 4th are not helping.

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doctormonkey · 24/03/2011 19:09

I've got two girls and I would LOVE LOVE LOVE a third girl.

I am very jealous of you Grin

ladyofla · 24/03/2011 19:15

thanks Doctormonkey. I know I must sound ridiculous going on like this. I'm usually one to be thankful for what I have not what I don't have. Glass half full and all that.

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FingandJeffing · 24/03/2011 19:36

Lady as an aside being a sonographer with fertility problems must be terrible. Good luck for girl number 3.

ladyofla · 24/03/2011 20:08

For sure. It puts things into perspective.

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