Should I ask Dp if I can have a contract mobile?

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Am spending a fortune for nothing on pay as you go. I was on contract, but went on PAYG after contract ended as was abroad a lot, so worked out cheaper at the time. Now I'm not travelling any more I want a contract phone, but dp thinks I need to run it past him first (which handset, which tariff, reasons for needing that handset/tariff). I work, and bring in as much income as him, so don't see why I should have to ask him about this when the money is already being spent on top ups (double the money actually!). Am I silly to be fuming about this? I want some independent say!

YANBU. And you know it.

Just get whatever phone you want surely? Your money, your choice?

Does he veto your tampon purchases too?

Come on, this is a joke, right?

I suppose it depends on why he is asking you to run it past him, does he want to help you make sure you get a decent handset/tariff, there are lots to choose from and it's the kind of thing that some men like to think they are "experts in" or does he think you need his permission to have a contract?

Just go and get a phone! Or do you pool all your money into one account (crazy!) and so have to pass everything by eachother? Would he do he same for a similar purchase?t

No I wouldn't run it past him, it sounds like common sense, you have a brain, make a choice of the best deal going. Tell him sometime in the future....

you are joking aren't you? go and buy yourself whatever phone you fancy and at the same time shave your head.

I ran mine past DP when I last renewed. Because he's into gadgets and things whereas I'm clueless. I also think it's courteous to include him in my decisions.

I would be livid if he expected it to be anything more than a courtesy!

It depends whether YOU get to veto HIS purchases too. Do you? Does he discuss his spending with you?

DH and I discuss all our spending with each other - because all our money is shared (not that there's much of it - he's on very low pay and I'm a SAHM) - but that is EQUALITY and is very different from him just banning you from a phone contract.

You don't need his permission.

If you think he knows more about phones and contracts or whatever then get his advice (I do cause what is the point in being married to the IT guy otherwise).

I don't ask DH's permission for anything, we consult, we discuss, but he isn't my boss.

Totally unreasonable of him unless you have the sort of relationship where you each run every item of potential expenditure past the other person.

Why don't you have separate accounts for personal expenditure?

What everyone else has said.

I'm with Morloth - I'd be looking for DH's advice. He loves a good spreadsheet, he does, so would research all the possibilities and put it all together in a lovely spreadsheet detailing the free minutes, which handset, tariffs etc for my perusal. But I wouldn't be asking his permission.

errrr.

That's sad actually.

The only way this is asseptable is if

a) He works in a mobile phone shop

or

b) You are a complete luddite who doesn't understand normal technology and how money works.

Is he control freakery about other things or just mobile phones?

I came off PAYG as it was more expensive. I am now on a SIM only with VIRGIN and it cost £8 per month for unlimited texts and 100 mins talk time. Comes to about £12 per month with extras.

Dh is BRILLIANT at finding good deals and will often spend ages researching on the net and will often say 'Leave it with me' if I am making noises about new phones/insurance/ etc. Is your dp like that and he's just trying to get you a good deal?

YANBU. Get an i-phone

Maybe he just wants to give you advice. The way you put the post is as if you have to get his permission, which would of course be unreasonable, but if all he is saying is "dont get one without me helping you make sure you get a decent deal" is fair enough.

Ok, I rang him and told him I was getting one, I feel all empowered. Have also asked to talk about equal proportions when putting money into the joint account. We have been so broke that I have told him about all my purchases (including shampoo!) and have been piling everything into the bills account (as has he I think) but haven't heard anything from him now I think of it. He doesn't seem to spend though, as I'm the one that drives, does the shopping etc, and we all have packed lunches. I suppose he must do occasionally though.

YANBU if you know what you want and are happy with the deal sort it out for yourself. You're big enough to sign your own contracts.

I just got a new phone on contract. DH was so jealous impressed with my choice he rang the mobile phone company and asked for 'The same one you gave my DW.'

Dp is very very very good with money, but I am the gadget freak. I think he is scared I'll get an i-Phone 4 when we really can't afford it (I've got my eye on a Blackberry Torch, am hoping it is ok) but I think it is that he wants to help. He just doesn't put it across that way until I feel controlled and then it goes wrong!

Quenelle, I like your style!

I know this isn't really the point of the thread but since being given a phone I am on giffgaff which is technically payg, but you buy bundles of mins/txts etc - really good value and very easy to monitor your spending, easier than with a contract IME.

Thanks

FYI I just got a BB Curve 3G for £20 a month with Tmobile. I love it. It's great for MNing work emails.

If you are so broke that you have to discuss all purchases then I don't think he's unreasonable to query you taking a contract out.

I actually switched to PAYG recently as it worked out cheaper for me, since I make so few phone calls these days! But if contract makes more sense for you then go for it.

I really thought this must be a joke when I saw it, are you seriously asking whether you need to ask your partner's permission or should 'run it by him', before buying something for yourself with your own money?

Glad you feel all empowered now, but that's a very low benchmark for 'empowerment' IMO!