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To want to sob but don't want anyone to touch me or I may break down

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spiderslegs · 23/03/2011 00:31

Had second MC in a year on Friday - am probably hormonal but just want to sob & have some sympathy but don't want anyone in RL to know that

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LessNarkyPuffin · 23/03/2011 00:33

You poor thing Sad

BluePyjamas · 23/03/2011 00:33

Sob away girl. How bloody shit.

MilkNoSugarPlease · 23/03/2011 00:35

Sending a virtual hug and sob away xxxx

Am so sorry, can't you talk to anyone in RL?

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spiderslegs · 23/03/2011 00:37

Thanks - I just want to weep - but have to dcs & a husband with a big job so can't,

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spiderslegs · 23/03/2011 00:39

Two dcs - can't even type....

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spiderslegs · 23/03/2011 00:42

Don't mean big, just mean involved - he works alot, it's my job to be there - just feel so shit - just told everyone - I was twelve weeks - thought it would be ok

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Rannaldini · 23/03/2011 00:45

bless you. have all the time you need for a sob

LessNarkyPuffin · 23/03/2011 00:48

Sometimes it can feel like if you start crying you won't be able to stop. You need to let it out. It's ok to not be together right now.

madwomanintheattic · 23/03/2011 00:50

of course you can. he might need a good sob too, y'know. Smile

i hate people being sympathetic, so do most of my crying on my own, but do (very) occasionally let rip. the world hasn't ended because i cracked so far. Smile

have a huge breakdown. in front of him. you deserve and need an rl hug. and so does he.

BluePyjamas · 23/03/2011 00:53

Don't be daft. Grieve. You need to. Get H to tell others, cry and sleep and hug Dcs. The rest can wait.

Slightlyreluctantexpat · 23/03/2011 01:06

Poor you, spiders. Sad Hope you do get a rl hug. Sending a virtual one.

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spiderslegs · 23/03/2011 01:06

Thank you, my dd asked where the baby was, didn't know what to say

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spiderslegs · 23/03/2011 01:09

I really don't want to cry, I've never been a weeper

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Slightlyreluctantexpat · 23/03/2011 01:24

No, I'm not a weeper either. I'm a bottler-upper. Weeping's probably better though (though it makes me feel like I look so weak!).

So hard for you to answer your dd's question. Even saying that this baby wasn't well, but that you hope there'll be another baby (or something like that) might just make her frightened about everybody's mortality.

Another virtual hug Sad

Perpetuallypregnant · 23/03/2011 01:28

:( poor you. I'm not a weeper either but when I had my 2nd mc I had a bit of a crying meltdown. I was on my own and it was so cathartic I felt a million times better afterwards.

It's really tough but I found hugging my dcs extra hard for a while definitely helped. I went on to have a normal healthy pregnancy the next time if that makes you feel any better.

Xxxx

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spiderslegs · 23/03/2011 01:46

Thank you, thank you, thank you - will put my head on the desk & let my shoulders heave now

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BluePyjamas · 23/03/2011 07:20

Good morning puffy eyes! Hope your okay.

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spiderslegs · 26/03/2011 18:54

Thanks all, had a good sob then spent three days in the sun with the dc's, drank lots of wine & talked with DH & now feel much better. x

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strandedpolarbear · 26/03/2011 19:28

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TidyDancer · 26/03/2011 19:31

Oh, I'm very sorry you had to go through that. :(

But I'm very pleased you've had a nice few days with your family. :)

FabbyChic · 26/03/2011 19:32

Sorry for your loss. You need to cry and grieve so you can get over that loss.

Sending you heartfelt hugs.

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