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to want action against the anti-buggy brigade?

64 replies

messytimemum · 22/03/2011 20:59

After ready today's scottish sun about the attacks on mothers with buggies (p35), i felt sick and angry at these mindless morons who attack anybody with a buggy. What kind of mindless thug goes around attacking people with small children? Especially those with special needs. The bus driver should be utterly ashamed of himself, as should the thugs that attacked the mother of a disabled child. I have never been attacked (thank god), and can only assume what it must be like. I have had the stares, and the remarks (mine are a little older, no SN), and have rammed people with the buggy who wouldn't get out the way.
So AIBU to want action against those who attack mothers in the street, or the bus, etc, because they have a buggy?

Rant over, now for a drink!

OP posts:
ChunkyPickle · 22/03/2011 22:18

Bah, the anti-sling brigade...

'You have to support his head you know' and all the other helpful comments while sitting on a bench (and my 2 month old with great head control for his age swivels round to glare at them)

It's not like I was on a bouncy castle with him in it.

tarantula · 22/03/2011 22:18

loving the buggy wars. Not sure that having flipper would be a good idea. A srmech would prob come in handy.

MissVerinder · 22/03/2011 22:19

There are lies, there are damn lies; and there are statistics...

MoonGirl1981 · 22/03/2011 22:28

I never had any 'buggy rage' directed at me.

I do remeber that most people don't help with steps or opening doors and if I was ever offered any help it would be from a teenager in a black hoody holding a skateboard - another reason why percieving hoody wearers as thugs annoys me.

Then again people don't bother with doors, etc now. If I open a door for someone or wait at the end of a narrow pavement people (again, except for the teenagers) don't often say thank you.

JenaiMarrHePlaysGuitar · 22/03/2011 22:34

What utter bollocks.

JenaiMarrHePlaysGuitar · 22/03/2011 22:35

The survey I mean!

cumfy · 22/03/2011 23:16

This is priceless. :o

What kind of mindless thug goes around attacking people with small children?

OAPs apparently!!

And you say people have deiberately blockaded you for 10 minutes before you fearlessly spearheaded your escape courtesy Phil & Teds.

A medal is in the post. :)

cumfy · 22/03/2011 23:25

This is all just some regurgitated pre-quake made up bollocks. Non ?

I still laughed.Blush

TandB · 23/03/2011 07:05

MissVerinder Tue 22-Mar-11 22:19:01
There are lies, there are damn lies; and there are statistics...

And then there is Netmums...

NinkyNonker · 23/03/2011 07:39

True, KungFu, the only snide comment I have had when using mine was from an old lady at the bus stop when DD was 2 weeks old and sleeping happily. She asked me about the sling, i said it was great for getting out and getting stuff done, she commented that I must be must be one of those parents...who never put their babies down. Before bringing out the rod for own back corker! Awesome. Pretty much my only interfering comment so far.

I would LOVE to see an adult sling. Just how much material would it need? And who would carry it? DH is very tall, but I think even he would struggle to carry me...

peppapighastakenovermylife · 23/03/2011 07:48

I reckon they probably phrased the questionnaire as 'have you ever been attacked whilst out with your buggy'

Then people who had been attacked were more likely to fill it in giving that statistic of 43%.

Just like if you put 'AIBU to only give my DS fruit shoots and gregs sausage rolls to eat' you will attract a certain type of mumsnetter...

bronze · 23/03/2011 07:49

Never had a negative sling comment though had some interested looks.

Only had one comment with a pushchair because I happened to pass a couple of women on the 5 second stretch of my journey where toddler was facing into the sun (it was the school run so knew how much shade was needed). They commented to each other though

I'm shocked about the mum on the bus story but I suspect the couple who did it were the kind who would attack someone if they looked at them slightly funny

SlightlyB0nkers · 23/03/2011 07:53

Nudging people with buggies isn't on imo. If they won't move, tap them on the shoulder, use your voice, etc. But getting a buggy knocked into my ankles is sore.

Never been attacked either Verbally or physically over the buggy. Weird statistics.

Did get a comment about dd not being able to see properly from her mei tai. She was on my back and smiling at everyone who passed. People just feel the need to critise anything. How much happier do they want her to be?

Faithless12 · 23/03/2011 08:20

It's ok for you to attack people with your buggy?

Im not saying it's ok to attack anyone but the amount of people who have hit me with their buggies is ridiculous and to see someone complaining about people being attacked and admitting to doing to the same is jaw dropping. Is it ok to hit a child with your buggy as one of the first times someone hit me I was about 5 in a post office queue with my mum, I was obviously in the way.

Are you one of those mothers who barge into others when there isn't anywhere to go? Stop using your buggy as a weapon and then you would have a leg to stand on.

FruitSaladIsNotPudding · 23/03/2011 08:24

I have never been attacked while out with a buggy. Or suffered verbal abuse. What am I doing wrong??

Although, I have also never rammed anyone with my buggy (wtf??) so perhaps that is why.

Gemjar · 23/03/2011 08:32

I'm not saying that attacking people with a buggy is ok, but...

I'm pretty sure that if I don't occasionally nudge people who ignore me when saying excuse me then I would still be on a bus now waiting for someone to get out of the way.

I use the sling whenever possible because of this, i've never had any bad comments to my face about it, but I do get a lot of funny looks, they aren't very common where I live though.

HippyHippopotamus · 23/03/2011 08:34

i've had lots of anti-sling comments. The most memorable was whilst carrying for dd when she was only a month or so and someone working in a shop said 'oh that doesn't look safe, you might drop her. in my day we kept them safe in their prams. that doesn't look safe etc etc'

My reply was along the lines of 'do you really think i'd be carrying her like this if i wasn't 100% confident that she was safe?" She scuttled away into the back of the shop at that point!

Never had any anti-buggy comments, at least none that i've heard or taken any notice of

Oh but I did have someone ram me with theirs whilst i was in a queue in the supermarket. The queue wasn't moving fast enough for her so she thought she'd hurry me along a little Hmm I asked her to stop knocking my ankles with her pushchair and she started shouting at me to not be so confrontational Shock I put it down to her having a bad day so i just smiled sweetly at her!

lesley33 · 23/03/2011 08:44

I have been rammed with a buggy a number of times. On the worst occasion I turned round and said you just hit me with your buggy - assuming it was an accident. Yes she said I want to get by you. My reply - you could have just asked me!

I have also been rammed with a buggy at very busy events. I have been waiting to get past someone and saomeone has pushed their buggy into my legs I think assuming that I am blocking their way.

FGS just ask and be polite like most people.

Gemjar · 23/03/2011 08:52

I don't get the not asking to move thing, DH does this, he will stand behind someone getting more and more irate at them waiting for them to move and it never occurs to him to just ask them to get out of the way.

When I say I have nudged people it is only after I have asked them politely to move, then asked a bit louder, then shouted and then the bus driver has shouted and they have ignored all of this

lesley33 · 23/03/2011 08:54

Or I have been waiting to get off a bus and somone has rammed with their buggy! Sometimes there are peopel ahead getting off slowly - old/disabled people - and we are not stopping you getting off the bus, just queing to get off ourselves.

Sorry for the rant, but I can't believe some posters attitudes about this.

TandB · 23/03/2011 08:55

I get fewer weird sling comments now that he is older, but people used to practically implode in their own judginess when he was small, especially since I had him on my back from 4 months. I have had people fiddling with the sling on more than one occasion as well.

I hate people who bash my ankles with their buggies. I have a scar that runs from my heel up to the middle of my calf and if knocked hard my leg will give way so I have actually been knocked down to my knees by someone with a buggy before. They were quite shocked!

lesley33 · 23/03/2011 08:56

Okay if someone is refusing to move I can see your point. But I have honestly never seen this happen. I have seen people who are deaf/hard of hearing not understand what someone was saying to them though.

TandB · 23/03/2011 08:58

Re the adult sling. My plan is to keep carrying DS until he is so big that I can lift my legs up and he will find that he is carrying me.

HippyHippopotamus · 23/03/2011 09:01

kungfupannda... great plan! i still stick ds (2.8yrs) on my back Grin

NestaFiesta · 23/03/2011 09:05

Oi buggy rammers! It's not on! You're giving us non-rammers a bad name!