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To Want To Pull Out Of This

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Bathsheba · 22/03/2011 16:56

One of my friends has been going on for a long time about a local band who used to be fab (not well known nationally but well known locally and renowned for a great stage show).

Anyway, they broke up years ago, and I had bnever heard of them.

Then a few months ago she heard they were reforming and doing a special 1 off gig - she really wanted to go and then said could I come with her....of course, sounds like a laugh, good band, and she was going to buy both the tickets...

However, I'm not REALLY feeling like backing out...

1 - She is ALSO going out to the theatre that night, with some other people. She has discovered today that the show at the theatre doesn't finish until 11pm.

2 - The plan was that I'd meet her at the theatre when it comes out and we'd then go accross to this gig - its at a venue literally just acoss the road from the theatre.

However, I'm now going to have to meet her, and wait for her in the street at 11pm. I've got no-one to go out pubbing with until then, so I'll essentially be coming from home into town at this time.

I did say that if we went in at 11 then we'd miss most of the band, but apparently they are on stage until 2am.

I really don't feel up to leaving the house to go out at 10:45pm - I copuld take the car but even then it would be bedtime by the time I was leaving and the chances of me lasting until 2am are greatly decreased.

But she has bought the tickets...

And I said I'd go...........

But starting a night out at 11pm, when I'm 40 and frankly tired....

I know she really wants to go but I really don't want to go out at that time of night. We have 3dds and my DH will be at home - its not like we could go out for a meal before that or anything as we have no babysitter and no money

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Skinit · 22/03/2011 16:58

Oh get yourself a bottle of something...take ages to doll-up and then off you pop!

The best nights are always the ones you're reluctant to go on!

Dropdeadfred · 22/03/2011 16:59

40 and tired??? 40 is not old!!!
go and have a great night!

zikes · 22/03/2011 17:00

Get someone else to come with you?

Bathsheba · 22/03/2011 17:00

I know I'm not old, but honestly, at the moment I AM supremely tired - I'm going to bed at 9pm most nights - as soon as the girls are all settled I'm off to bed...

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TheVisitor · 22/03/2011 17:01

I'm 41 and I'd go. Grin Go on, I bet you'll have a top night. Grin

Bathsheba · 22/03/2011 17:03

Hi Zikes

Its a ticket only gig though and from the notices on Facebook etc I think its sold out - so it would be hard now to find a 3rd person to make it up....

I guess ideally what I'd like is a few people to meet up with around 8 - have a few drinks with them until its time for me to go and meet up and its gig time, but its such short notice - its this Friday andw e only discovered today that the theatre wasn't out until 11 (its 10 all the other nights)

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MrsH75 · 22/03/2011 17:03

Hmm, mean but I'd be quite tempted to say I was coming down with a streaming cold or stomach flu...I've never been very good at late nights even in my teens/twenties, not without the assistance of Class A drugs anyway, especially starting the night that late...maybe if I was already out I could go on to see the band at eleven but if I had to stay in until then I'd probably be asleep before then!

Other than crying off could you perhaps find a film you wanted to see locally which ends before 11pm? I could probably just about manage that!

meditrina · 22/03/2011 17:07

Could you see if there are any tickets left for the theatre? You'd not be by her during the actual performance, but could be for drinks and interval. Or would she be with a completely incompatible group, making that inappropriate?

If you don't really want to go, is there a mutual friend (who might actually have heard of them) who'd like to go instead to whom you could give your ticket?

compo · 22/03/2011 17:07

She sounds a bit mad to have booked two things in one night
bit inconsiderate , no?
If you definitely don't want to go I bet one of the theatre goers will go with her

LaurieFairyCake · 22/03/2011 17:12

I too think you should go. You can get the evening with dh, doll yourself up then go out - if your brave you could go into a pub for a quick drink at the bar before meeting her.

The evenings that sound the least promising always end up being the most fun usually.

Also where is your wee spirit of adventure gone? I was turning down nights like this and staying in my comfort zone but after looking in the mirror at my wrinkles and my sagginess I thought I'd better not turn down any prospective fun as I'm not getting younger only older.

Bathsheba · 22/03/2011 17:27

Well, I've discovered there are some tickets for the gig still going - so I've put out a facebook appeal to see if anyone fancies going for a couple of drinks in thow - they can then either come to the gig with us or we can leave them at 11 - I think my friend would never have booked 2 things on the 1 night, but the gig is a "For 1 Night Only" thing and she already had the theatre tickets booked.

I think she is going out with her Mum and Aunties, so no-one really willing to cross over from the theatre group.

I could get a theatre ticket but thats a good £30 we don't have even if there are any....

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