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to kick dp outy of bed as soon as his alarm goes off?

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Billiemumoftwo · 22/03/2011 12:09

He insists on setting it for 5.45am and puts it on snooze every 10mins until 6.30am and I've had enough now so as soon as it goes off I whip the duvet off him and puch him out! Our ds is 11months old and gets up at 6.15am so I feel i have been robbed of half an hours sleep! Does anyone else get as wound up as me over the snooze alarm or maybe it's just lack of sleep as to why i'm so annoyed!

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EricNorthmansMistress · 22/03/2011 12:23

YANBU, that's very selfish. He either gets up at 5.45 or sets it for 6.30!

ethelina · 22/03/2011 12:25

YABabitU. Maybe he's not the sort of person who can just jump out of bed when the alarm goes off. I know i'm not. Maybe 45 minutes is U though, he could set it at 6.15 and get up at 6.30, thats what DH does. Or actually you say DS is up at 6.15am so he is the alarm clock - you don't need one.

ethelina · 22/03/2011 12:26

OK then YANBU. I just reversed my position completely in the space of starting and finishing my last post Grin

kreecherlivesupstairs · 22/03/2011 12:27

Agree with Eric. I do get out of bed around 6 every morning, on the odd occasions at the weekend when I decide to try to lay in, I get super pissed off when DHs clock goes off at 6.45 and he snoozes it. I am fully awake and get up. His explanation is that it is a luxury to be able to turn it off and roll over a couple of times. He normally gets up between 9 and 10 at weekends.
OP, tell your DH that the MN jury is behind you.

LadyThumb · 22/03/2011 12:27

a) he goes into the spare room
b) you kick him out at 5.45
c) you unplug the alarm
d) no sex until he complies with a, b or c because the half hour sleep you are missing would have been playtime !!!

EricNorthmansMistress · 22/03/2011 12:31

Oh yes. My DH is currently supposed to leave at 7.30 for work, which would mean getting up at 6.45. As this is completely beyond him and his boss doesn't seem to mind him arriving at 8.30 every day I have banned him from setting his alarm for 6.45 as it's me who turns it off, wakes him up, tells him the time and watches him go back to sleep. He gets woken up at 7 when My alarm goes off. That 15 minutes is important to me!

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Billiemumoftwo · 22/03/2011 12:32

:) ethelina precisely our ds wakes up at 6.15 it's as though its a macho thing "my alarm is telling me to get up now but i'm not going to i'm going to put you on snooze and drive everyone mad!" kreecher dp agrees with your dh with regards to it being a luxury. I am such a light sleeper once I'm awake I'm awake! And you're right he is not the sort of person who can jump out of bed so i did sympathise with him. I shall tell him the MN jury is behind me :)

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JaneS · 22/03/2011 12:32

That would drive me nuts.

If you're saintly, can you get him to use an alarm that plays quiet music, not a beeping one? That at least might not be so annoying.

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Billiemumoftwo · 22/03/2011 12:34

Ladythumb that is brilliant tink i'll go for d :)

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Billiemumoftwo · 22/03/2011 12:34

*think!

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BluddyMoFo · 22/03/2011 12:35

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Carrotsandcelery · 22/03/2011 12:35

I had this problem and I currently sleep in the spare room because of it. I get more sleep but it is lonely in there. Sad I woke up spooning the dog this morning Shock I could cope with 10 or 15 mins snooze but not 45 mins or more. It just seems so selfish to me.
YANBU
I would aim for the 6.15 compromise if you can.

ethelina · 22/03/2011 12:36

throw the alarm clock out of the window. The other side of Ladythumb's D is to say you will be his alarm clock instead. Then you're both wide awake for the day.

Win Win I say Wink

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Billiemumoftwo · 22/03/2011 12:40

But yet when the cricket was on and he wanted to watch it his alarm would go off at 4am he would leap out of bed!

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Billiemumoftwo · 22/03/2011 12:42

ethelina that's perfect! I have never been good at compromising always let things go on until the final straw breaks my back and I flip lol! roll on tomorrow morning!

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AKMD · 22/03/2011 12:45

DH did this when DS was newborn: set alarm, snooze it, not get out of bed, snooze it again, wait for me to kick him out of bed or he would be late for work. I snapped one day and told him that as I was up all night doing feeds he was being unbelievably selfish expecting me to wake him up in the morning and run around after him getting him ready. I am not his mum.

Problem sorted.

ethelina · 22/03/2011 12:47
Grin
BronxCheer · 22/03/2011 13:21

I had same problem, but solved it by buying new clock radio that he doesn't know how to set. The previous (annoying) travel alarm clock was 'mispaced'. I then refused to set it for unreasonable times. He was late for work a few times, but as with AKMD I'm not his mum.

NinkyNonker · 22/03/2011 13:30

45 mins early is selfish. 615 would be fair.

I also sometimes make encourage DH to take dd down with him for his breakfast and shower, giving me an extra half hour. Grin

Nagoo · 22/03/2011 13:32

Yanbu. I do that too. It's fucking selfish. I let DH have one snooze, then out. Equally when I get up at 0530 for work, I wouldn't dream of waking him up.

TheAtomicBum · 22/03/2011 13:37

[shamefully puts hand up] Blush

I set my alarm for 6:35am. I try to get up at 6:45 after one snooze.

But due to bone idle laziness I don't get up unti 7:00. Sometimes it wakes people up. I try. I'm just aweful at mornings Blush

2rebecca · 22/03/2011 13:40

We allow each other to turn off the snooze button once, doing it for 45 minutes is just selfish and pointless as it's depriving both of you of 45 minutes sleep. If my husband wanted to pratt about with the snooze button for 45 minutes he'd be sleeping in another room.

Ormirian · 22/03/2011 13:43

Yes! DH lets his bloody alarm go off about 6 times before he finally moves his carcase. he will even get up to go to the loo and then go back to bed! So I get up, wake the kids, have a shower, wake the kids again, get dressed and dry mu hair, wake the kids again, and go downstairs to start breakfast and packed lunches. And then he gets up and goes out for a paper, drinks his tea and buggers off to school leaving me to sort everything out!

Got one over on him this morning though - DS2 and I had to leave early to walk to school because car is in the garage - i left before him so he had to get the eldest 2 off to school. Oh how he enjoyed that Grin

TheAtomicBum · 22/03/2011 13:47

Omirian, getting up to go to the loo and then getting back in is clearly taking the p*. I wouldn't go that far.

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Billiemumoftwo · 22/03/2011 14:04

TheAtomicBum is that you Joel?! lol Omirian I think I would kill him. Another thing is when i'm clearly asleep and pokes me (with finger) and says are you awake? and keeps doing it until I shout WHAT? and he says sorry I didnt realise you were sleeping I thought you were awake... GRRRRRR! maybe we should sleep in seperate rooms Hmm

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