To not send DS1 to pre school

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I'm sorry I've posted a few threads about this but I feel in an awful dilemma about what to to with my DS1 come September. He will be 4 in December and currently goes to a day nursery 20 hours a week as does DS2 who is nearly 2 - 2 full days as I work. Come September I will hopefully be on maternity leave with dc3. I haven't applied to any pre schools as thought I would just leave both boys in the current nursery he attends as pre school and the session times are not really suited to my childcare needs BUT this will not be a problem as I am now pregnant. However I will still send DS2 to nursery when on Mat leave so if I did get a place for DS1 at the preschool either for mornings only or as they are offering 5 full days to older children I might get offered this I would be doing 2 different drops with a newborn in tow. Also he so settled as his current nursery I am reluctant to move him when a new sibling is change enough. I could try and get him started ath the preschool in Jan. They don't do much learning at his current nursery and I'm worried about him getting left behind. Can't stop worrying about this

He won't get left behind. Providing he has an interested adult at home or nursery who will talk to him, read to him, show him things, answer his questions, etc he will be fine. Everything else, such as numbers, letters, etc he will learn in plenty of time once he starts Reception class.

do what is best for you and your family. I am keeping DD1 at her community preschool rather than sending her to the one attached to the school, much to the of many local parents as the school nursery is outstanding while her preschool is 'only' good!

My reasons are it is more flexible - she can do 2.5 days rather than 5 mornings, which will give me quality time with DD2 and also 2 full days a week to do stuff all together, go on day trips etc. Plus she is settled there and she is happy. The school nursery is 5 mornings starting at 8.45, I don't fancy stressing us all out trying to race there every morning.

He won't get left behind, they all have to follow the same early years curriculum anyway, which is all about learning through play. Why not speak to his key worker at nursery to find out what they do in terms of learning for the 3-4 year olds if you are worried?

One of DS's friends goes to nursery 3 full days a week, and has the 'free hours' taken off the bill. DS goes to nursery and pre-school on the same days - nursery collect him from pre-school and take him there from 12ish onwards.

As long as your child is happy where he is, I'd be inclined to leave him. If you're the sort of parent worried and looking for advice, then he'll probably get all sorts of appropriate attention at home anyway.