... not to mention DH and I had to queue for 45 mins to pay £40 for the privilege when my friend (or as I am calling her today, my 'friend') who has a frequent visitor card so gets in free, waltzed through the special door without queuing.
A brief b/g - we are godparents to her son, so we suggested meeting them in the park for a catch-up this weekend. She called on the morning and said her son wanted to go to the museum. I agreed. DH and I (who have no children so no particular need to go to a kids museum on a Saturday morning ourselves!!!) arrived early and got in the queue. She called us to say she was running 30 mins late. We carried on queueing. We eventually got in, paying £20 each for a ticket. She arrived, got straight in for free, and then announced her little boy only wanted to go to the museum to pick up a special badge from a vending machine there. We went straight to the vending machine. He got his badge. She said he was hungry and wanted to go for lunch. We left the museum. We went for lunch. When we had to leave, she said it was a shame we couldn't spend longer and that they were disasppointed. This after being 30 mins late.
What would any of you do about this? She is going through a nasty divorce, so we forgive a lot. But this is typical behaviour (and tbh always was, even before the divorce). She has lots of money, so didn't even think about the £40 for us. And she doesn't have a full-time job, as we do, so it didn't occur to her that Saturday would be our usual day for a much-needed lie- in.
She has, frankly, been a rubbish friend for the past few years. When DH was redundant, she was utterly unsupportive, despite my asking her for support specifically. Just a chat on the phone etc would have helped at the time. I have gone out of my way to support her throughout divorce, even at one point having to get a taxi to her in the middle of the night because she was upset about an email her ex had sent, and I was worried about her alone in the house with her son. But am getting tired of utterly selfish behaviour like this weekend's.
She is my best friend (supposedly) so though others have told me to just ditch her, it's not really an option. She isn't the kind of person to whom you can gently say she's being unfair, because she gets hysterical.
I have to be honest, I'm wondering what I'm doing with a friend like this!! I know it reflects badly on me that I let myself be treated this way. But I am her son's godmother and have known her for almost 20 years.
Any advice much appreciated.