Wine drinking

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AIBU to expect DH to not consume at least one bottle of wine a night? He does, occasionally, have to remain 'dry' and can do it without going bonkers, but it's so rare that I am worrying about the amount of booze he gets through. I have spoken to him about it, but he brushes it off and denies the amounts in question. On the few occasions where he concedes it, he just says "x drinks just as much" or "I'm stressed" (my opinion is life is stressful and I don't care about x)...My problems with it are a) he's boring and snores excessively post boozing (multiplied when in company as +++ wine then (boring on not the snoring) b) useless in am at weekends as can't see need to get up early unless going to work (we have 2 small ones) c) I don't want to look after some liver-failed individual if he gets health problems (he's fully versed in what could happen) d) sets a terrible e.g. to children

An average of a bottle of wine a night is too much. And it's not just liver problems - heavy drinking affects the pancreas, the brain (more than 35 units a week doubles your risk of a stroke), the peripheral nervous system etc etc etc.

He's also well on his way towards developing alcohol dependency and that's assuming he's not alcohol dependent already. The odd night off proves nothing - my ex can do that and she's a full-blown alcoholic.

The other concern is that a lot of people who drink too much are drinking more than the people around them are necessarily aware of. When he goes off to the garage for a cigarette, is there any chance he could be topping up his glass and/or necking booze from a different bottle?

Alcohol wrecks lives, la de da...

But... Wine is different. You need to know loads of stuff to be a proper wino, and there's always so much more to discover, so drinking wine makes you more a boffin than a boozer. And anyhow, good wine is so expensive that you have to be middle-class to drink loads of it, it's not like he's at the pub "wiv da lads" drowning pint after pint of chavvy lager.

I am sure he's drinking it for the taste, not the effect. In fact, I am not even convinced wine has "proper" alcohol in it (the sort that leads to domestic violence, hangovers, liver and kidney problems, heart disease). It has the other alcohol which helps people speak French, build share portfolios and ride horses.

The Daily Mail keeps telling us that wine cures cancer so it must be good for you. Stop being such a spoilsport.

Snobear I must admit that I can't tell whether you're either saying what you think, engaging in heavy irony or you're just pissed as a pair of toddler's knickers