to think you should be able to change a lightbulb at 39yo?

[ChaosTrulyReigns]

A friend of mine (DH works away, one DD), is unable to change a lightbulb on a tablelamp by herself, so calls her dad to come roubd to do it.

I have also been out with her and she's called her mom to go and take her washing in off the line as it was starting to drizzle. We were out having coffee and we actually closer to her home than her parents were.

I know it's no business of mine, but I feel sorry for her DD, witnessing this level of princessy incapability.

Can you change a lightbulb?

I am crap at anything manual but even I can change a lightbulb.

She just sounds lazy!

tbf though the parents deserve it as they're the ones who've enabled it.

dp's sister is similar and i have very little sympathy for her parents who just ask 'how high' whenever she barks 'jump'

I can change a lightbulb but I wouldn't want to undermine DH's few roles round the house.

This type of behaviour "ooh I'm a lady what would I know?" type behaviour irritates me beyond measure. If a woman that I know starts on with it I have to concentrate on smiling politely and not making a rude remark to her.

A woman I vaguely know started a story the other day about the boiler being broken. She rang her dh who was miles away at work and told her to ring the heating engineer. She was rattling on about how he had asked her what error code was showing on the display and she had no idea what he was asking. It's just embarrassing imo.

I can change lightbulbs, have been able to do so since teenage years.

I think it is pathetic how some able bodied adults can't do the simplest of diy/household jobs.

Yes I think it's all about being indulfed.

You'll never guess who does the ironing.

divorce the bastard!

indulfed?

ffs.

SummerRain my dh's sil is like this as well. Makes a real drama and calls on her parents for the most minor or issues. On Boxing Day once she could not drive to her ils so she made her dad take her. (she does not drink alcohol btw, she was just making a point)

I don't like admitting to being unable to do things round the house. I tend to google things just so I don't have to ask. I wonder if it tells you how to change a lightbulb on google.....

I think I've had her as a tenant...

I expect you could google it LB29.

Also sometimes what you need to do is to have a good look at things and calmly think about it. (this is what I do with things that go wrong and logically are probably quite basic to sort out)

For example our kitchen sink was leaking last week. I waited til the children were out and it was good daylight and had a little look and managed to sort it out myself. :) (and I am no whizz at diy I can assure you)

So similar with a lightbulb in a lamp. One could unplug the lamp and tentatively twist or unscrew the bulb (it is likely to be either a screw fit or a bayonet fitting)

For your friend Chaos
www.ehow.com/how_370_change-lightbulb.html

OPOL.... dp's sister owns her own home five minutes away yet still lives with the parents as she can't function without them to wake her for work/feed her/ tidy up after her/do her washing/wait on her hand and foot.

Shocking!

This all sounds familiar SummerRain (not in a do I know you way, just the behaviour!)

Dp's sil makes that most sexist comments about all kinds of things and again I have to practise my polite and interesting smile but in my head I am desperate to say something. i.e. about why men are so much better and women can't be expected to do x, y or z.

just to clarify that it is the sil that believes men are better not me, I worded that rather misleadingly!

I was at PILs when dd was tiny and I was pregnant with dd, I was pitching in with dinner and dealing with the kids while SIL sat on her arse and bellowed at her mother to 'Get me milk' 'Where's the red sauce'

I couldn't restrain myself from saying 'Christ, if I spoke to my mother like that she'd slap me even at my age...' (SIL is the same age as me)

I'm not great at keeping my mouth shut in these situations.... surprisingly SIL is so oblivious that she didn't even register what I'd said!

She sounds useless Chaos. I can't stand weedy, weak, delicate women.

If something needs doing just do it, ffs.

She is useless SoftKi, but this is her normal.

She's at some of the things I manage to do, but I have no choixe, I'm on my own in the week with the DC and if stuff needs doing, I do it.

There are lots of things I can do, I can put a picture up, fully prepare and decorate a room, make flatpack...........but I can't change a lightbulb
dp always does it!