to wish my older siblings didn't treat me like I'm 10??

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my siblings are much older than me (12yrs plus)

they haven't lived in the same country as me for about 20 yrs, so I appreciate they haven't seen me much

but I'm in my 40's, have kids, morgage etc etc

also I'm the one left with all the hard work of looking after elderly parent, and that takes some doing

so why do the siblings still think I'm about 10, call me darling(like they do their grown up kids), generally try to treat me too young? dh says its cos they feel bad that I'm left with looking after mum and they tip toe around me scared I'll blow a fuse at them (they do nothing to help)

its getting on my nerves, I have spoke tho them about this but they look at me like you look at a toddler who is having a grump

the way I see it, I'm the more adult one with the things I've had to do/sort out for mum, yet they continue to patronise me -why??

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Its hard isn't it.

My brother gave me a happy 10th Birthday Card on my 11th Birthday, and has continued the tradition ever since, this year I got one with a fabulous flashing badge that says "I'm 10 today!" (I'm a little older than 10 now)

Family are useless, but why aren't they helping with their mum too?

Oh how I feel for you! In the same boat. I'm 51 ffs! My older siblings (61,60 and 57) still think I'm in primary school! I just ignore it now. Sorry not to be of more help.

because they are shite and leave it all to me, they just phone up and say "mum sounds great" when I see the reality (she's in her mid 80's)

db doesn't even know my address, and I've been here 13 yrs

When I was little I was always being told to look after my DB who is 5 years younger than me, and I still feel the need to 'look after him' even though he is a very successful grown up now!

The other week I was out with him and my DD (2.6) and went to take his hand to help him cross the road! He's 24

Now knowing how much this winds people up I will make a concerted effort to remember he is a grown up.