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To think this is disgusting?!

74 replies

JaneS · 20/03/2011 17:49

I just asked DH to pop to the shop for a few things I'd forgotten to buy for dinner tonight. Also asked him to take out the bin as it was full and I was cooking.

He went out with the bins a few minutes ago and I remembered something I'd forgotten to ask him to get, so went to find him - and he's gone straight to the shop. Without coming back to wash his hands. It's not just me thinking that is absolutely disgusting, is it?!

Admittedly it's not as if our kitchen bin is particularly minging, and the way our waste goes he doesn't have to touch the lid of an outside bin at all - but I still think it's really nasty.

AIBU?

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JaneS · 20/03/2011 18:02

Four - yep, he went and picked out some lemons and is now zesting them into the stew. I'm not commenting and attempting to let go of my uptightness now ...

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5Foot5 · 20/03/2011 18:12

My only issue with bins is I don't like a big one. I always go for a small pedal bin in the kitchen because that way it has to get emptied regularly - at least once a day - so it doesn't get minging. Also you don't have to touch the bin with your hands when you put something in it.

This may be due to a fairly awful kitchen I shared when I was student which had a big swing bin and when it got full people would stack things on it and around it rather than actually empty it. Ugh! That was disgusting.

HappySeven · 20/03/2011 18:18

Did he wash the lemons? They probably need it more than his hands considering people in shops (whose hands could have been anywhere) will probably have touched them...

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JaneS · 20/03/2011 18:23

5foot - the place I lived in before this was a student house with about 15 people in it (it was huge), and it had, not a bin, but a bin room. Emptied once every two weeks, you were meant to just throw stuff in and shut the door on it. [boak]

Perhaps I need to let go of the disgustiness of the past, eh?

Happy - yep, he washed them, I was clearly just being uptight.

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MigratingCoconuts · 20/03/2011 18:23

you have a bloke that takes the rubbish out and goes to the shops????

wow!! Grin

MigratingCoconuts · 20/03/2011 18:24

....and is now cooking!

He's a keeper.....

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JaneS · 20/03/2011 18:25

Yeah, it's almost like we're equals, Migrating. Wink

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Escallonia · 20/03/2011 18:26

OP - a bin room ??? who emptied it?? how??

GKlimt · 20/03/2011 18:26

Gently asking if you might have OCD or be that way inclined ?

WinterOfOurDiscountTents · 20/03/2011 18:28

but didn't you wash the lemons anyway?

bilblio · 20/03/2011 18:29

LRD, I agree with you. Horrid.... although I admit I am slightly obsessive about handwashing. Too many years working in healthcare.

However it is because of this obsession that people at work are more than happy to eat what I cook because they know I will have washed my hands about a dozen times while cooking anything.

worraliberty · 20/03/2011 18:29

Your OP doesn't mention zesting lemons..just that he went to the shop without washing his hands? Unless he sucks his thumb on the way, I'd say he's fairly safe....

MigratingCoconuts · 20/03/2011 18:29

With some of the saddo partners you read about on MN, not washing his hands before going to the shops does not really put him in the running...

OnEdge · 20/03/2011 18:32

its not that bad

vintageteacups · 20/03/2011 18:33

YANBU about usually washing your hands after putting out the bin - and I always do it without fail- but this is a bloke (sweeping statement) but DH prob woudln't do it either unless I made a point of telling him to.

However, do you always wash your hands straight away after the supermarket shopping trip? Can you imagine the number of peoples' hands on the trolley handle??? That's way more minging if you think about it.

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JaneS · 20/03/2011 18:34

Esc - they had a cleaner who came in and did it. Poor woman. It was a private let, just happened that all the tenants were students. It was, without a doubt, the most revolting idea I've ever heard of. I'm stunned they got away with it - though we only lived there a few months as (surprise, surprise) they had to gut the building fairly thoroughly to get all the mice/seeping damp out. Lovely.

biblio - sounds as if we're, er, unusual. Grin

worra, no, it doesn't. The zesting lemons he did after he got back, and after I'd gathered I was being a loon. Hence my slightly tense tolerance of it.

migrating - true, I feel very lucky. But he doesn't need gold stars for doing a share of housework, and it amuses me a bit.

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JaneS · 20/03/2011 18:35

vintage, you know, I think I do. Odd, because I work with stuff that's been pawed over for several hundred years and never cleaned, so it must be filthy ... I'm not very logical, am I?

Time to lighten up, clearly.

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MigratingCoconuts · 20/03/2011 18:36

Mines a stay-at-home dad and more tidy than I'll ever be Grin

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JaneS · 20/03/2011 18:37

Mine's quite tidy about some stuff ... tip about others. Like me, really.

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PenguinArmy · 20/03/2011 18:37

same here migrating

I've never used our washing machine or iron

MigratingCoconuts · 20/03/2011 18:39

actually, microbe studies suggest its the nooks and crannies you have to worry about, where the little critters can gather.

Smooth surfaces like trolley handles tend to rub clear from one person to another...its probably as clean as the last person to touch it Hmm

jenga079 · 20/03/2011 18:39

Okay, so originally you were BU (but very graceful about the criticism you got, so I like you!) but PLEASE tell me he washed his hands before he zested the lemons?

Otherwise, eugh!

MigratingCoconuts · 20/03/2011 18:41

I use our iron to do those pesky hama beads...

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JaneS · 20/03/2011 18:41

jenga - well, he washed the lemons so I guess his hands got washed at the same time, but he didn't particularly concentrate on it. He wouldn't have washed his hands unless he'd been washing the lemons - but probably he's boosting my immune system nicely, right?!

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annapolly · 20/03/2011 18:41

I agree not nice,

DH emptied our bin and then picked up the kettle to make coffee without washing his hands.

He said all that nonsense about germs is a girl thing.

Surely even on a regularly emptied bin there could be bacteria from food left all day in the warmth that would transfer to your hands and could cause illness.