to be sat here

[mrsjaja]

on MN whilst lazy git DH is still in bed??? DD is at church with her Granma, i have mountains of washing and other housework to do, but once again I am up and could be doing things and he is still asleep????

You're not doing anything, so why should he?

And i really dont see why i should do the chores by myself (again). He spent the biggest part of yesterday evening asleep, i had to go and collect DD from a sleepover because she couldnt settle (been having some MAJOR sleeping issues with her), i settled her to sleep, then i made some crap food dinner, he woke up, ate it, watched 20 mins TV with me and was back to sleep!!!!! Am so chuffing annoyed....

im not doing anything right now - but got up with DD at 7, got her a bath, breakfast, dressed, dropped her at Church, got back, washed up from dinner (hate leftover washing up!!!), put some washing on and thought sod it. WOuld love to have the luxury of having idiot for a wife me around to do everything else. Just lately his etire w/ends are computer, computer, computer, too busy for her or me!!!!

Yes in that I would have woken him up by now!

He only takes the piss because you let him, so stop letting him.

But YANBU to be massively pissed off about it, I would be too!

Thanks bogeyface. I know i am letting him take the piss, but i just cant face any rows today!!! AM soooo tired....He is normally far more helpful than this tbh, but for the last month (while we have been having these sleep issues/attitude crap from DD) it really has all been on me!!! And today i just thought arseholes!!!!! See how you like it when i dont do it.....SOooo not me, and i will probably give in....

A friend of dhs phoned yeterday while he was hoovering. When he popped round he told me that I was lucky that dh helps me with the housework Dh smiled at me and said "We both live here, this is OUR house, the housework, like everything else is shared...". The friend was genuinely shocked. Why is it still seen as the woman's responsibility? It's 2011.
mrsjaja I think you need to sit him down and explain what a fair division of responsibility is. My dh works more than I do but hence I do the school run etc. When I am at Uni for the next 3 years he will do more cooking etc. than he does now (3 days a week) but it isn't an issue...we are a family, a team, I'm not a doormat but neither am I a martyr. Our children haven't been brought up with gender specific roles. Why is it all down to you?

"sitting here"

does he do long hours in the week?

Yes, but as he has no car, i am taking to DD to school, taking him to work, trying failing to keep up with the housework, taking dd to dancing/swimming/performing arts, collecting him from work, taking him to governors meetings, as well as working three days a week at my "paid" employment!!!!!

He isnt usually like this, and i know his car being off the road is an absolute pain in the butt for him too, but geez - what wouldnt i give to lol in bed until lunchtime?????

He sounds like a pillock.