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AIBU?

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to be soo fucking angry??

11 replies

Butternutsquash22 · 20/03/2011 01:42

right, should first say that I dont have children, becuase i guess that would prob be assumed on mumsnet. But I just like the place.

came home from work at about half 1 (work part time in a pub) to find nothing. No DP. I knew that his friends were thinking of going out, was talking to them on xbox, while DP was at work (finished at 9pm) but told them that if they were doing something to come into the pub (2 min walk from our flat, which is always the pre-drinks place) to tell me because my phone was out of battery.

Ididnt hear from them or see them so assumed nothing was doing. but from the mess and empty bottles in my flat, they have had their pre drinks and gone out. No note or anything.

I do usually go out with them, but do understand that they need guys nights sometimes too, but I was fricking working so I wasnt exactly going to invite myself along if they had told me!!

Is it Unreasonable to have wanted to have been at least told about this???????

(to make it worse, he's not answering his bloddy phone...

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blinks · 20/03/2011 01:47

eh?

Butternutsquash22 · 20/03/2011 01:50

bit of a messy anger-tainted rant, sorry...

to sum up- AIBU to want to know if my DP is going out and will be back at god knows when??

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Butternutsquash22 · 20/03/2011 01:50

i mean for all I know (well realistically I do know...) he could have left me,come home and he's not here, when he left for work had no plans to go out...

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blinks · 20/03/2011 01:52

i wouldn't sweat it doll.

thumbwitch · 20/03/2011 01:54

he could have left a note but IME that's the last thing they think of - he'll assume you've worked it out.
Go to bed, leave the mess and in the morning wake him up bright and early (despite hangover) and hand him the bin bag to clear up. :)

AgentZigzag · 20/03/2011 01:58

I love your take on it blinks Grin

I'm sure there are thousands of possible reasons he's not answering his phone or not told you, but they don't side step that he's being (a great MN expression) a twunt.

Not quite a twat, but twatish.

Anywhere you can get off to so there's no one at home when he comes back?

giantpurplepeopleeater · 20/03/2011 01:59

Maybe not fucking angry, but I might be a bit Hmm if DP hadn't left me a message to let me know where he's gone/ what time he'll be back.

We just think it is a courtesy to one another when we live together to let each other know our plans. It stops the other one from worrying/ making other plans etc

Butternutsquash22 · 20/03/2011 02:06

Thank you. I knowing probably more angry than normal, but I think it's tainted with a different issue.

I usually go on guys nights out (not a clingy gf, honest, his friends invite me!) but recently one of the guys told another friend that he fancied me...

So then next thing I know it's almost like andeliberately sneaky night out without me!? I mean its not my fault this guy likes me, and I would never do anything, and neither would he. I feel like the fact he's gone out without telling me means he didn't want me there becUse he doesn't trust me....

I've also started taking the pill which could be messing with my hormones....

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GKlimt · 20/03/2011 02:47

Sorry, love. Agree with blinks

In 2 or 5 or 10 years time you won't even remember this.

We all have 'hormones' - men and women alike.

positivesteps · 20/03/2011 02:50

Yeh I would be pissed off. Why couldn't he just have told you? Men!

VajazzHands · 20/03/2011 09:42

yanbu. Ask him how orried he would be if you did exactly the same

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