To wonder what the hell they are doing?

[ginmakesitallok]

Posted this in chat yesterday - so thought I'd try here!! Anyway...

Some of you might remember my threads about DBs possible mental health issues - very long story short he suspected his DP was doing all sorts via technology, she was frightened of his mood swings, he was going to leave her etc etc (last episode was about a month ago).

DB phoned tonight - his DP is pregnant........

He sounded thrilled

They have money problems, he's potentially got some form of paranoid disorder, they've been on the verge of splitting up a few times in the last year.

What in God's name are they doing having another child?????????

Tried to sound happy for him on the phone.

My Mum is so upset about it she can't bring herself to talk about it.

Tits

Well done keeping how you really feel under wraps.

Children are born into all sorts of circumstances, and people who have mental health issues aren't precluded from having a baby.

But I know you know this.

Did he get to see a doctor?

Were they any help?

Don't think he went to see doctor. He seems to be able to keep things under control for a while and then loses it big style.

If it was just his potential MH problems that'd be fine - but its a host of things - debt problems/not coping with the children they already have/his DP being a lazy cow.

Why oh why would they want another baby? Deep down I just think that in this day and age there is no reason to bring a baby into an already difficult situation. Poor wee thing

Lots of successful, fulfilled and ultimately happy adults were born into difficult situations.

You can't help what you make of the situation, but in the end you're just making a judgement on other peoples lives.

Nobodys home environment is perfect, but that's what makes us so dynamic.

I AM making a judgement on their lives - I know that. But I can't help it. I just want whats best for my DB and I worry that they're just making it much more difficult for themselves. To be brutally honest with myself, I think part of me is a bit jealous too - I'd LOVE another baby - but know we couldn't cope financially - and we are much better off than they are. Also - I know that a lot of this is down to me not liking his DP - and them having another baby makes it more likely that she'll always be around (and I know how harsh that is - but it's how I feel).

As I said to my Mum, it's his life, it's up to him to live it and when baby arrives we'll all love it and try to help them make the best of things.

Thanks by the way!

You sound lovely ginmakesitallok (especially your MN name )

It's refreshing to see someone so honest with themselves.

It's never a good financial time to have a baby, good job they don't 'need' cash.

I know it helps but it's not the be all/end all.

And as for not liking your SIL - get yourself to the back of the queue!

Thanks - but not feeling particularly lovely at the moment - just feeling very protective of my lovely twin brother and want to take him out of his situation for a while.

I think a lot of the not liking SIL is that she reminds me of myself when I was about 18 - no responsibilities, biggest concern was having a good time. Though I know she's been through a lot and life can't be easy for her.

Not on the Gin tonight - just shared a lovely bottle of red with DP and might open a bottle of nice cider (though it's my turn to get up with kids in the morning, so will probably just go to bed..!)

Hope I've not killed your thread posting so much on it