to be annoyed at my work colleague

[cookielove]

I work in a nursery, as a nursery officer, but as part of my extra duties by choice i am one of two event co-ordinators, we organize charity events, fund raisers, and work things.

Last year the other event co-ordinator decided she did not want to after having to deal with angry colleagues who felt she did not share out the money fairly after a fundraising event. This event i didn't take part in, she took over barely consulted me she tells me she did ask me a few questions to begin with but when i didn't reply straight away (due to being short staffed, and having a challenging group of children) she just took over, and refused any help. Ok fine if thats what she wants to do.

So now she pulls me aside, is upset with all the angry words said and says she doesn't want to do it anymore, ok fine i take the lead, i have planned everything by myself for the past year or so, so i begin to get stuff ignored for this years fundraiser, she keeps giving me funny looks (jealous maybe, i don't know) she pulls me aside and tells me she wants to help, she actually said if she can't help, she'll kill me

Ok so i let her help, tell her you can sort out the poster, oh no thats not enough she wants to take over, she wants to lead the event

I told her i am more than happy for her to help but this year i want to put my stamp on it, i asked if she could show me the letter she used but she never got round to it, so i wrote my own then felt put out because i didn't use hers, so i mixed the two together, i put only my name at the bottom, she wanted hers to, so added her, and then she wanted hers first, i said no. I want to receive the letters, i know it sounds silly, but i like the fun-ness of not knowing what free stuff we might get e.t.c But she wants that to, because she did it last year people know her name and may respond better to her (this maybe true, but hey ho, i am not changing it).

So aibu to be annoyed at her?

So your're arguing about whose name goes on some letter first while someone gets away with a best misappropriation and threats, and at worst, who knows.

I'd fire the pair of you.

YANBU

Some people are just difficult to work with and she is obviously one of them. It might be easier for you each to take turns leading events. At least then you can't get blamed for her shoddy work and she can't keep insisting on doing whatever she wants when you're leading an event.

I didn't realise that my ablity to care for children was determined by the fact that i like to recieve letters. Yes i must be fired right away, i'll let my manager know Thanks Winterofourdiscounttents.

Thank you Alldirections

Parents do sometimes donate toys, but not enough, and not of a good quality. Also are nursery was relocated, so we could take more children but they never gave us more toys, so we are still trying to build up enough toys for everyone, and as i am sure your know toys get broken, so we need to replace those.

no, acting like children and apparently doing nothing about serious problems with fundraising and fund allocations would get your fired. No-one mentioned your ability to care for children.

sounds to me like she didn't really mean it when she said she didn't want to do the job anymore, she was just pissed off and wanted to stamp her foot.

i think you need to say in all-staff meetings who is leading on which event (and you can take it in turns if you really want to do it).

being unclear is very well, unclear

She sounds a pain. Stick up for yourself, I don't think yabu.

Thank you fluffles and ensure

Do not give in and let her do it! She said she didn't want to, and now that you are doing it she wants to take over. She is acting like the child. She did it last time, you are doing it this time, that is it. She can help if she wants.

I hate it when people give in to people like this girl. It will only teach her that this kind of behavior works (as I bet it has worked her entire life)