For being a bit miffed with my mum?

[Lynzjam]

I think IABU, for analysing this too much but I've got my 6 month old DD sleeping in my arms just now so I though I'd share this with you.

DP and I decided we would like to go out for tea tonight so I phoned up my parents to see if they would like to come with us. Turns out they are going out for tea with a couple of friends of the family who I know really well and we often have get togethers. Not only are they going out for tea, it's at the same restaurant DP and I fancied going to.

So I spoke to mum and she said she'd maybe see us there. I was a bit shocked because I expected her to say that we should all go together.

Would it not be a bit strange if we were sat at separate tables? Just think it's a bit off? However we have booked a table for the three of us and we may or may not see them.

If they wanted a evening just the four of them then that's cool. Ugh I sound silly here.

IABU

maybe she thought other couple would be miffed if she invited you along without so much of a by your leave

ive read on here before about people saying others are unreasonable for inviting others without consultation with the original guests

Sorry, I think yabu. They made their arrangement first.

Was it cool to go ahead and book a table for just the three of us though? Because that was our plan before we knew what arrangements they had.

It's just I really fancy an Indian!

Yes, and it will be really nice for you - not least because your mum will probably take your baby for a while and you and DH can eat together for once. Better than all sitting at the same table by far.

i wouldnt bank on her taking the baby

i wouldnt if i was out for a meal with mates, i would be relaxing and enjoying conversation

thinkingkindly has it! This is something to celebrate, not to be disappointed about. :)

With a six-month-old GD, no doubt her mum will want to show her off to friends.

You are miffed that your mother has her own social life?
Mine would box my ears for such a thought.

Well done your mum-she does have a life!

Did it not occur to you that maybe her friends had arranged things?

Go out and ejoy your meal but don't expect your mum too look after your DD - she is out socialising with her friends!

I would go somewhere else and let them enjoy their evening with their friends.

How would you feel if you had arrange an evening out with your friends and your parents turned up at the next table (knowing in advance you were eating there).

I'd be totally cool with that TeaOneSugar.

Just feel like we've been excluded. Normally we would have all gone out together. Meh it's not like my DD is any bother either. Maybe the don't want to see me breastfeed.

You obviously have a very close relationship.

As Kara says maybe their friends made the arrangements, or maybe they have something specific to discuss, who knows.

I'm not sure why you feel excluded though, they made the arrangements before they knew you wanted to go out for tea.

Surely you don't run your dinner plans by each other every day?

pmsl

she may not be any bother to you, but not everyone wants a baby thrust on them whilst they are out having dinner

and no, i wouldnt want to see you breastfeed either while i am stuffing my face with my saag aloo

Excluded?
She said maybe see you there then. That hardly sounds like a woman trying to avoid seeing you breastfeed
I am afraid this might be your first step on the path of understanding that although you have a fabulous and lovely DD, not everyone else is structuring their lives around her.
I think you are being a bit silly.

TBH if you had my mother, you'd have something to be miffed about , it sounds like you have a lovely relationship, but all relationships benefit from a bit of time apart.