or is he??

[Bluemoonrising]

I have had a couple of dates with someone from Match.com.

Nothing heavy, but we seemed to be getting on good, we had chatted loads on Facebook before we met.

After the first date, he texted to say 'do you like flowers'

I said 'why?'

'Just wondering'

I replied 'I don't want you spending any money on me, so I'm not going to answer'

All seemed fine. On the last date he brought it up again. I again reiterated that I didn't want him spending money on me, lunch was enough.

I left for work.

He then texted 'Don't worry, it won't be an expensive bunch'.

So I replied 'I've told you already, I really wish you would pay attention to what I said'.

Since then he has not been in touch. At all. This was a week ago, and we were chatting/texting most days.

WIBU to not want him buying me flowers? My reasoning (which he didn't ask for) is that a) it's very early days and b) I really need to get to know him better before I know if there is any chance of romance. Every boyfriend I have had has been a friend first before a boyfriend.

(I have learned the lesson from this that dating sites are not for me)

So - WIBU to not want him to buy me flowers, or is he, for not listening?

OP, be glad you're rid of someone who can't seem to listen to or understand what you say and has to ask THREE times before he finally gets it.

I dont think id have liked the hinting about flowers, i would worry i would be obligated to keep seeing him . Too soom for all that and a bit cheesy too.

he probably thought you were being polite. he just wanted to do something nice for you.

i think you could have been a bit kinder about it tbh.

Blimey. It's a bunch of flowers. The bloke was trying to be a bit romantic! How fucking miserable some of you are.

I have no idea why you were being all weird and mysterious about whether you liked flowers, but I'm surprised he stuck it out for so long.

YABU. He persisted because you gave him the reason that you didn't want him spending his money on you which is why he replied that it wouldn't be an expensive bunch. Then you were a stroppy mare.
He doesn't sound the best at wooing ladies but if he was he probably wouldn't have had to register on an internet dating site so what did you expect?