Will abide by the general consensus!
DP and I are on holiday in Cornwall. He's been invited to a stag do tonight (it was supposed to be today too, but the day part is too far away for him to get to). It will take him 2.5 hours to get to the evening part.
When he first mentioned it, I agreed happily that he should go with my blessing. However, that was months ago. Since then both DS1 (3.4) and DS2 (11 months) have stopped sleeping through the night. DS1 gets night terrors between 9 and midnight, sometimes accompanied by vomitting. DS2 used to sleep through with a dreamfeed, but for the past month has been waking every couple of hours between midnight and 6 for no particularly obvious reason. It has Bern more than a month since I had more than three hours sleep in a row, and more than 3 months since I had more than 4 hours sleep in a row.
DP usually helps me with DS1, but is often too deeply asleep to help with DS2.
We also discovered in the New Year that I'm pregnant - currently 14 weeks.
The stag is someone DP used to work with four years ago. He sees him perhaps once a year. The real reason for going is because his best friends will be there. He doesn't see them very often because we live 2 hours away from them - perhaps once a month. When he does see them he stays out overnight.
DP last went out for the night with his best friends last Friday (overnight). He also spent all day at the rugby with his Dad in Sunday.
I have had evenings out, but no nights away because DP finds it hard to cope with both boys together.
If he goes to the stag do then he'll take the car. The boys and I will be left on the farm where we're staying. There's stuff for DS1 to do - feeding the animals, soft play, sandpit, trampoline - but nothing much for DS2.
DP will be back at lunchtime on Saturday.
DS2 and I both have tummy upsets at the moment.