Oh for Heaven's sake, not this old chestnut - AGAIN?!
Before the bf do-gooders start - no I haven't read the old thread because I've literally just returned to mn today after getting totally pee'd off with the righteous idiots that tend to frequent the site - and thought I'd have a nosey in case it had changed. It hasn't.
I tried to bf my ds and it was painful, upsetting, etc, etc. A very young midwife the following day, suggested a bottle of ff. I was beside myself with thoughts of failure ( for weeks and maybe months later). Her theory was "That a happy mum, made a happy baby".
My ds - and me - never looked back. He thrived, I thrived and has from the moment he entered school, was the only pupil to immediately go up a year for his maths and at the end of junior school, is in the top two for every subject - VERY PROUD MUM ALERT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
ALL factors, from the time before conception to the day children decide for themselves what they want to do with their bodies and their lives, affect them.
With my dd, I didn't even consider bf because of my past experience. She's absolutely fine!!!!!!!!!!!!
My point is, you could smoke 30 cigs a day but bf - does that make things ok and your child have a so-called better start in life? Or is it better to be a non-smoking mum who tries her hardest to do and eat the right things during her pregnancy and wants the best for her child but bf doesnt suit - for WHATEVER reason and is made to feel so guilty - as I was!?
Saying that bf is best and all the rest of it, is of no help to anyone.