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mums and the fact they know it all

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mrsjaja · 17/03/2011 13:21

AIBU to expect my dear mum to understand the her Diabetes and mine are two separate things??? That my treatment is different to hers, and that it always will be - hers i tablet controlled Type 2, mins is Type 2 also, but not well under control and therefore i am on insulin, and various other meds/dosages that she is not on, and that I DO HAVE TO TAKE THIS, that im not just being difficult about it all (her words)?? And that i am wrong to explain what the insulin means to my nine year old DD??? According to my mum, she doesnt need to know or understand what to do if i have a hypo!!!!!! Grrr.....wish she would just butt out of this. Its hard enough as it is without her constant criticisms and suggestions that she is not being treated correctly or that i am not being treated right!!!!

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Flojo1979 · 17/03/2011 13:24

YANBU - thats mums for u!

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mrsjaja · 17/03/2011 13:28

I think i am more concerned by the fact that she thinks i am wrong to explain what a hypo is to my 9 year old, and what she should do IF it ever happened when it was just me and her togather (I did constantly say to her that i didnt think it would as my levels are way too high, that is the problem.) The Diabetic Nurse advised me to explain it to her, and told me what to say so she shouldnt scared witless!!!!

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LisasCat · 17/03/2011 13:39

I was 6 when my mum was diagnosed. I think I learnt within the first few years how to recognise the difference between a hypo and a hyper, and what to do in each instance. Your DD absolutely needs to understand your diabetes. Many people dismiss it as a minor illness, because it's usually easily controlled by drugs. But a slight mistake in your diet or exercise, and your DD might be saving your life, or at the very least witnessing you being very ill and need to know you've got it under control.

However, I think your mum sounds like the diabetes is merely the stick with which she chooses to beat you. If there wasn't that, she'd be forcing you to listen to her words of experience about children and raising a daughter (or is that just me projecting my mother onto yours???). Smile

jellybelly25 · 17/03/2011 13:57

Oh god ignore her, YANBU!

ACMDowding · 17/03/2011 14:02

I was 6 when my parents first explained my dads type 1 diabetes to me. By the time I was 10 I was able to giv emy dad his injections (old fashioned style syringe etc). I was fully aware of what to do if he went Hypo etc.
I think you have done the right thing telling your DD

As for your mum, well mine is always always telling me what she thinks i should or shouldn't be doing, she is always berating me over this that or the other, and I'm now 40. in fact I say to her "it's a miracle that I've managed to raise to Dcs to the ages of 13 and 11 without any major incident as you seem to think I am incapable

Are you the only daughter by any chance?Grin

Desperateforthinnerthighs · 17/03/2011 14:15

Part and parcel of being a mum I suppose.......our kids will be having the same discussions on here in years to come Smile

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mrsjaja · 17/03/2011 14:34

OMG - you are so right about the current stick to beat me with - i do soooo much wrong, in her eyes, whilst my brothers ideas on child rearing are so right (Huh - dont think so!!!!! - dont want to even think about starting on that path!!!!)......Glad im not being unreasonable though......

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MadMommaMemoo · 17/03/2011 14:55

My mum really is always right! No honestly she is! She knows every little thing about everything. In fact I think she should be made leader of the world because then there would be no poverty or war, no benefit cheats or asbo teenagers.

ShinyMoonInAPurpleSky · 17/03/2011 15:53

My mum had type 1 diabetes since I was born (she had gestational diabetes and it never went away).

I have known what a hypo is, what the signs are and what to do if she has one for as long as I can remember. I have also known for as long as I can remember how to give her her injections or test her blood sugar levels (and understand them), and knew all the names of her medication and what doses she takes if anyone needed to know.

It's not stupid in my opinion, it's wise to let them be prepared.

Although I do remember a boy in my class with type 2 diabetes who was on tablets and I didn't believe him because I thought I knew all there was to know and hadn't heard of this type or treatment Blush I was about 8 at the time. Still makes me cringe!

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mrsjaja · 17/03/2011 19:10

Desperate for inner thighs - that really made me laugh - i always swore i would not be like my mum if i ever had children of my own - but i find myself saying and doing some of the same things- its scary Shock

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