To be utterly DISGUSTED by my aunt

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She came to visit my folks recently with her two DC's. In fairness, she has had a rough time with her ex - but she is now having a 'relationship' with a married man. She is being terribly moral about it - saying she won't 'split up a family' and be a 'home wrecker' whilst sporting expensive jewellery he has bought her and talking about their planned holiday to America.

Apparently this bloke was widowed with two young children, one handicapped. He got remarried an older woman who coped with the two bereaved children and has provided 24/7 care for the handicapped child for the last 20 years. But now he has 'needs'. They are having a 'mutually supportive emotional relationship'. Anyone else ready to puke?

No words.

people can justify anything if they want it enough.

meh

Well when his wife finds out I guess your aunt will be the one providing 24 hour care for the bloke's two children. It's called sewing what your reap.

Perhaps you could point that out to her.

Or reaping what you sew even.

or is it 'sow'?

sorry, sorry

youre right to be disgusted, but in her defence she maybe be using it as a crutch like a recovery from a bad ex, i she the type of person to go from one to another???

the poor wife, what a pair of twats her and him.

She can take the moral high ground all she likes (she doesn't want the diffculty of caring for a disabled family member?)

She knows exactly what she is doing and how things would probably end if the wife found out, it's not rocket science.

Don't accept her lies she can be as deluded as she likes, but personally I couldn't sit there and listen without letting her have both barrels...

@ TNS. i think it's 'sow'

what a stupid woman

People will always try and justify their (terribly selfish) actions. She needs a reality check. How disgusting to have an affair with a married person.

That poor wife.

What is amazing is that she is public about it. Does she have no shame? But in this moral climate people are apparently allowed to do what they like and no-one can be seen to judge. Complete bollocks. It would be appropriate for your parents to tell her to shut up about her grubby little affair - but not you imo, she is still your aunt.

Yanbu, totally.

I'd be disgusted too and I would tell her straight how appalling her behaviour is.

Well I daresay the situation looks totally wrong from your pov but really the only people concerned are these three. Why not leave it to them rather than give your aunt a keelhauling via mumsnet?
Thats pretty disgusting behaviour to tbh.
Lets hope neither aunt or wife are mumsnetters.

Northern, she openly chats about this affair, so she's obviously not concerned about what people think.

Maybe - first you sow, then you reap, and then you sew what you have rsaped - if you have reaped cotton.

That is pretty yuck.

I would avoid someone like that, as she is an Aunt and not a parent it should be pretty easy to pull off, also make sure you don't get pulled in when the shit hits the fan.

"He has needs". Yes he does. He "needs" to have his todger chopped off.

To me, the man seems by far the worst behaved in this sorry state of affairs.

To do something as awful as betray a wife who has been caring for your disabled kid 24/7 for years sets off alarm bells - if I were your aunt I would be nervous. But she won't be, because no doubt he's charming to her - for now.

Too bloody right she doesn't want to 'break up a family' - if this man's poor wife leaves him, your aunt will be the one providing the 24/7 care, I expect!

This man sounds disgusting, and she is complicit in his betrayal so she's not much better. Having been hurt is no excuse for acting like this.