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Two children in a pram

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LoopyLoopsChupaChups · 16/03/2011 15:46

More for conversation that anything really, I asked my mother's advice on getting a double pushchair, as there will be a similar age gap with my two as there were with my brother and myself.

Now she won't stop going on about getting a traditional pram and putting both children in it. DD will be 2. I have told her as gently as I can that it just isn't the done thing any more, for safety fears, and that I won't be doing it. She won't have it, and thinks I am being completely ridiculous.

Would you consider doing this? Am I being unreasonable (and precious) to think that it's totally inappropriate?

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Bogeyface · 16/03/2011 16:24

I have never taken mine on the bus either, I live about 2 miles out of town and walk. I do have a foldable buggy that the car seat will go onto if I need it to, but rarely use it tbh, I tend to use a sling if i cant use the pram.

Firawla · 16/03/2011 16:28

just ignore her then and go for the option you prefer, and if she says anything just say thanks for the advice mum but in the end we thought this one would be easier/work out better
dont let it bother you too much

ladyfirenze · 16/03/2011 16:30

loopy your mother sounds like a dreadful bitch, just like mine I'm so sorry to say. It really doesn't matter what pram you want, she shouldn't be pressuring you to choose one she likes. tell her to fucking fuck off, then research for yourself which pram/buggy you want. don't listen to any of her shit about why x pram is the only option. also, for what it's worth, I had various double buggies - a three wheeler side by side, which was too wide for some shop doors, but you could remove the back wheels. It lasted three months until I buckled the front axel. Second was a maclaren sidexside and that was okay but my giant babies where squeezed in! so I finally got a phil n teds which was bloody marvellous. Only problem with that was punctures, so i had this odd little single buggy, with a massive sturdy shopping basket underneath which i would stick a cushion in and bung one of the dcs in - they didn't mind at all. (and a really sturdy hood if you had a tired toddler, they could sit on it). Then I discovered gel filled wheels and we never looked back!

Lonnie · 16/03/2011 16:42

as she thinks its such a great idea get her to pay for the Silvercross smiles...

Or suggest she pays for an EmmaJunga

if she doesnt do either then simply smile sweetly and say it wwould be so lovely but ahhh so sad out of budget.

2babyblues · 16/03/2011 16:47

Depends what your 2 year old is like. This would have been a great source of stress for me!!x

diddl · 16/03/2011 16:48

Willyou be going to many places that your toddler can´t manage to walk to/from?

Mine are 22months apart & I was lucky to live within toddler walking distance of most places.

I had a modern SC pram & when new baby came, toddler walked!

Also had a sling so that toddler could go in pram when necessary-ill or walking further than meant to for example.

LineRunner · 16/03/2011 17:06

I had a forward-facing buggy from Mothercare, for 2nd baby, and my 2-year-old sat up on the hood bit, facing me, holding onto the push-bar. We had lots of really good talks as her face was so close to mine. It was great.

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LoopyLoopsChupaChups · 16/03/2011 18:32

I have thought about just getting DD to walk, and she does love walking, but wants to be carried every few minutes for a few minutes, which isn't really feasible with another in a pushchair. The other main issue is that she runs off all over the place, and if she isn't tethered I have to run around stopping all kinds of mayhem!

Sadly my mother isn't offering to buy a lovely pram, so her idyllic ideas of pushing to babies around the Welsh mountainside in one can remain in her memory!

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LoopyLoopsChupaChups · 16/03/2011 18:39

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Sheilathegreat · 16/03/2011 18:41

I don't understand the appeal of those traditional prams. We walk a lot places but also like to have the option of getting the bus and car too. And those prams look like a nightmare to wheel around cafes and busy shops.

I don't think there is anything inappropriate or unsafe about them for two babies, just seem a bit style of substance IMHO.

I have a baby due any day now and I hope to have him in the sling and DD in her buggy for any long trips- though she is getting better and better at walking over long periods (she has been in training since I found out I was PG Smile )

beesimo · 16/03/2011 18:43

yanbu you are the Mam and they are your bairns therefore you are the expert in this situation but do try not to get so het up as your DM is only trying to help honestly. At one stage I had two in the pram, one attached to the pram handle by a safety rope she was a little bugger for running away from her DM and two trained to walk five yards in front. I used to feel like a demented sheepdog but they all survived and so did I lol

oldraver · 16/03/2011 19:21

If you do all your shopping on foot and dont get on a bus then a big pram is brilliant. Even I can fit fall out of the Silver Cross. They are easy to manouvere as well

I would say though that a coach built is more of a specialists pram hun thing. You would probably need another moe for in the car etc

ShinyMoonInAPurpleSky · 16/03/2011 19:31

If the house and gardens, outfits and poncy husband in wellies came with the Silver Cross pram I'd definately buy it.

ShinyMoonInAPurpleSky · 16/03/2011 19:33

Oooh no, it's this one I want! I saw it in John Lewis' before ds was born and fell in love with it.

Bogeyface · 16/03/2011 20:27

I had a bit of a pram habit til I got my big traditional one and it stopped there! They are wonderful. Far more manouverable (sp?!) than people think, you can fit a weeks worth of shopping in the basket and the baby is as comfy as if they were at home in bed. Sizewise, they are high but not that wide, certainly alot slimmer than a double buggy which no one thinks twice about. I have never had a problem getting them into or around shops etc.

Also, nothing beats pushing one of them, absolutely nothing! My obsession with mine is such that more than one person has suggested I only got pg again to be able to use it! It wasnt the reason, but I was thrilled at the thought of getting it out again! :o

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ShinyMoonInAPurpleSky · 16/03/2011 20:34

Oh don't Bogeyface you're making me so jealous. I settled for a Silver Cross Linear Freeway because it was the closest to my dream pram that I could afford!

ShinyMoonInAPurpleSky · 16/03/2011 20:37

1944girl My grandad bought my gran one when my mum was born in 1955 as a present because my mum was their last baby. Unfortunately my gran didn't love it, she is a very short lady (4 foot 10 in her youth, shorter now!) and just couldn't push it...she said she looked like a little girl pushing her mum's pram around!

I just wish they had kept it. I would have found room for it, there isn't room for my Linear Freeway but I manage to step over it.

MirandaGoshawk · 16/03/2011 20:40

That Harry Will and Kate mug has made my day!

And OP - YANBU. Times have changed. Put your foot down!

Bogeyface · 16/03/2011 20:42

Sorry Shiney, didnt mean to!

Have you tried ebay? There are some real bargains on there :)

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ShinyMoonInAPurpleSky · 16/03/2011 20:55

I've had a look on ebay and while if I had the money there are a couple of bargains on there (providing they don't have massive reserves) I think I am just going to save up and wait until we have a second baby then make up an excuse to buy one (So far my excuse is: But it's sooo pretty and I really really need it! I really do)

shesparkles · 16/03/2011 21:04

I have a silver cross high pram which my parents bought when I was pregnant with dd (now 13!) and although it wasn't the most "modern life" friendly of prams, I love it. I used it until she was about 2-you can walk for miles pushing these prams, and they're the cosiest things going.
I used it again when I had ds-dd was almost 5 and she sometimes sat in the foot end of the pram if we went for a long walk, and there was still loads of room.
It's in the loft now for if/when there are any grandchildren.
I've come over all nostalgic nowBlush

1944girl · 16/03/2011 21:05

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FriggFRIGG · 16/03/2011 21:12

ughh,are you sure you are not me?!

my mother said the same thing,she is also not winning any mothering awards...
she told me she used to stick two in the pram and one on the wire 'basket' underneath,and if we didnt like it we could bloody well walk Hmm

anyhooo i think they look lovely,comfy etc,i also think they are wildly impractical for most people,and i wouldnt touch one with a barge pole,simply because my mother did.

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