To gossip about others with my DH?

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I really don't indulge in gossip at all except for with DH, we do tend gossip about friends and family members on a regular basis, are we being unreasonable/unusual?!

It is entirely normal and healthy to discuss your innermost feelings (however judgemental!) with your other half.

We do, don't feel it is about judging the individuals we ripe to shreads, more about how we stand about ishooos.

By looking at each other's reactions to other peoples problems we confirm our own course of action.

Oh, I would indulge in a little judging too. Gets it out of the system, and it doesn't go any further.

You can't go through life without any judging

I had a mega judging gossip session with DP on Saturday after I came back from visiting a friend who has just bought an expensive second home. She and her DP are barely ever at home together these days because they both travel so much for work and her DCs spend most of their days with a Filipina who isn't even fully declared

Nah, YANBU we do it all the time.

Can't stand girly gossip and all the ooh what do you know stuff but with DH he doesn't judge me for judging and vice versa.

YANBU, although of someone ever asks me if I can keep a secret I will always say that it's probable that I'll tell my DH so don't tell me the secret if they don't want him to know about it too. Seems fair to give them warning of my inability to keep my gob shut!

Glad it's not just DH and I who love to gossip behind closed doors... was beginning to wonder if we were just incredibly judgemental bitchy people.

DH won't gossip with me and I can't gossip with anyone else because I don't know any gossip. He knows everything about everyone.

I don't count it as gossip if is with DH.

I sometimes gossip with DH, but I am secure in the knowledge that any conversation I have with him is forgotten within a day, no matter how important OR trivial.

My DH is worse than me!

A good old fashioned bitching session is good for the soul

Arrr, in some ways you do let off steam with dh etc.

But I remember my parents always putting down others in front of us and it really influenced me in a negative way, as I saw people in their worsed light all the time. So I think to bt careful in front of the children. You want them to grow up positive people believing the best in others x

freebreeze - as long as you temper the bitching negative with lots of positive feelings about how great other people are, I think it's good for children to know that you neither have to like everyone nor think the best of everyone.

YANBU, everyone does it, surely?