AIBU to feel hurt by my brother?

[Catnao]

My mum just rang me, and said, "Have you heard from X?" (one of my brothers).

I said "No, not for ages, why?"

Mum: "Oh - well he and Z and have decided to get married!"

Me: "Oh! When did this all happen?"

Mum: "Oh, about ten days ago!"

Me: "No - why didn't you mention it?" (I speak to my mum or dad or both most nights - sad I know!)

She said, "Well I thought I'd wait til he told you himself".

Which he hasn't. Not a peep. We are not close, but I did think I might get this kind of news - I have always been friendly with my (as I discover) future sister - in - law too.

I assume I will not be needing a hat!

my brother got married for the second time without telling anyone, we found out by text two weeks later. he honestly thought there would be no problems with this course of action and was a bit stunned by the response. he isn't so good with the social niceties.

(of course, this is the same brother who forgot to tell us that his big first wedding was fancy dress, so the bride, groom and all their mates were wearing wonderful costumes and we looked like a bunch of idiots in our best frocks. that one, he got a bloody good bollocking for).

Well. I still feel a bit hurt, but am aware am being slightly ridiculous. I guess my relationships with siblings sound quite like yours actually, notsweatingthesmallstuff.

He'd still better invite us though!

I just don't understand why 'hurt' means 'victim'. Those two are miles apart. YOu are hurt, fair enough. I think a straight 'aw bruv I felt hurt that you didn't tell me yourself' is preferable but maybe you couldn't manage that to begin with, but still went ahead and sent your congrats. You did well imo.

YANBU and I don't go along with this "he's a bloke" excuse that's being spouted. He should have told you!

I think I'm "close" to my siblings, but usually only see them at my parents' house. To the extent that once, when I rang my brother, he guessed I must be ringing to tell him I was pregnant by the fact I was ringing him at all!

my mum told me my brothers wife was preggers, hecate has it spot on, i told my brother s'not fair and he smells of pooh!!! :)

He's your brother, just ring him and say- oh wow congratulations, mum told me! etc etc.. and then say - oi doofus why didn't you call to tell me? But just be generally excited for him! He's a bloke, he probably didn't think.

Make more of an effort to talk to him if you feel bad about not being close.