Why does my friend dislike me?

[JustaNickname]

In my group of best friends there are 5 of us. All been friends since school and I love them to bits. One of my friends happens to be my first cousin though and its her behavior I have the problem with.

For years ever since we were little she has always IMO put me down, made catty remarks etc. I split from the father of my son back in October and I've had a really rough time of it. We were together for 5 years and it all ended very badly even though we are starting to regain a friendship which I hope is best for my son.

While my son was at his dads house at the weekend I went out for a few drinks with my cousin kind of a spur of the moment thing and got talking to some guys from a neighboring town. I didn't know any of them and it was all just friendly banter. One of the guys asked my my number at the end of the night and although i was a bit hesitant as I still have feelings for my ex I threw caution to the wind and gave it to him. He also gave me his number. By the time I got home that night he had already to txt me to see if I had gotten home safely which I was pretty happy about seeing as I really didn't think I'd hear from him at all!

My cousin then turns around and says quite a few hurtful things.

-He came onto her first
-She had already met him and he was interested in another friend of hers
-He had given me a fake name (Not true because I checked up on this through FB)

I know this all probably sounds a bit petty but this is the most recent in a long line of incidents. I had my son at 17 and left school. My Debs (like a formal dance) was the following year and she didn't tell me the tickets were on sale but told all our friends that she had asked me and I told her I didn't want to go :(

AIBU in thinking she has a severe dislike of me for some reason?

That's sad - your dad was probably the only stable person in her life, a father replacement, and it ended. For good reason, but did he try to diffuse it first, or did he just drop her? I can quite see why she is jealous of you - probably has been all along.

NOT YOUR FAULT. Have to say that again. Sad though - this is a primal jealousy, deadly for the person who has it , toxic for the target.

My twin is like this. I can't be around her as she has destroyed me - or tried to, and if I'm honest has been very successful. I'm not saying you should put up with it because her story is sad. In the end my story became sad and I had to protect myself.

Bumblebee queen its funny you mentioned what your cousin said about your eyebrows because my cousin does the same. I have naturally very nicely shaped eyebrows. I've never plucked them in my life just really lucky. Some people have nice legs and apparently I get nice eyebrows :) anyways she's forever making comments about the huge difference plucking them makes and she's only stopped now because anytime she said it the other girls would tell her not to be so silly and that i'd ruin them if i started to pluck them.

Same with the hair. I have dark hair and she's a red head. I once died my hair a sort of auburn colour and I didn't like it very much. I just prefer being dark and i found it faded out to much for me. That was 2 years ago and she still insists I was better as a red head.

Get yourself a good book on assertiveness. You need to stand up to her, politely but firmly.