in asking children to part of a wedding only?

[VenetiaLanyon]

Was thinking about inviting children to the day bit of our wedding i.e. ceremony and drinks reception bit in pm, and then a child-free wedding breakfast in the evening after a pause for people to sort out putting children down.

How would you feel about this as a guest? Would you bring your DC and then make arrangements for the evening, or would you try to get childcare for the whole day?

Wedding would be on a Saturday, not until next year, and in London, and about 3/4 guests from London and home counties.

Thanks for your feedback....

That's what I'm worried about, Lenak. Hopefully won't get mardy, but would be disappointed if everyone disappeared.

Perhaps more people would stay in the evening if we made it compeletely child-free (except for bridesmaids); the difficulty is that I really would like there to be at least some kids there in the daytime, as I'm rather fond of a lot of them...

I think really good friends would move heaven & earth to make sure they were there and would arrange childcare - especially if they have lots of notice.

We went to a no kids wedding when ours were young & had to pay for accommodation for my parents who travelled 300miles to babysit, as well as accommodation for ourselves. It was an expensive weekend and a bit of a PITA but it was my close friend's wedding and there was no way I was going to miss it.

Some people were put out, others were glad of a day/night without the kids - you're never going to please everyone.

if it was me i wouldn't take the DC at all but thats because i prefer going to weddings without them and i also have the childcare option. you are giving them that choice too.

you might find that one husband/wife stays and that the other leaves with the DC and that he/she comes back later for evenig do when DC are settled with babysitter - there are many options from what i can see.