and should I just make a mammogram app for my mum...?

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...because she will still not got for one

With the family history we have (ridiculously high levels of breast cancer, I am so that she won't go for a mammogram

Bloody well tell her from me that had my lump not been found as early as it was I wouldm't be here to bollock her!

I haven't the answer as to HOW you get her to go but YANBU for trying and if making the appointment and frogmarching her to it works, go for it. It's too important NOT to go.

Does she know how much anxiety it causes you?

Is she just hiding because she's so scared of what they might find, or she doesn't want reminding about the high levels you have in your family?

Sympathies to you though, it must be so frustrating.

I agree that she is probably scared and that's why she won't make one.

Tell her you are going to make an appointment for her and yourself to go together and take her along kicking and screaming.

If there is anything there, it's not going to go away by not knowing about it.

I've had this issue with my mum. I finally got her to talk about why she didn't want to go, and it turned out it's because her friend went for one, they found lump but it was weeks before she was told it was benign and in the meantime she crawled the walls. My mum said she didn't want the stress and believed that there were too many false positives to make it worthwhile. So after quite a bit of coaxing and talking about accuracy, I found somewhere where it can be done privately and all followups and results are done superquick, and she's agreed to go.
I also pointed out how cross she would be with me if I decided not to bother with smears etc. Hope you manage to talk her round.

YANBU. Could you show her this thread?

I understand how worried you are and how frustrating it is that she won't go.
However, making an appointment and trying to force her to go won't work.
Tell her your fears, try to address hers and persuade her, but the bottome line is, it's her choice.

I saw a lady in my surgery the other day who decided not to go for her mammogram because her friends had told her it hurt. She didn't self-examine either. 12 months later after her dog jumped up at her she found a lump and came to see me. The lump is large, tethered to her skin, and I am as certain it is malignant as it is possible to be without a histological diagnosis.

The really sad thing is that she could possibly have had this detected early enough to treat successfully had she gone for screening (or even self-examined). As it is, her prognosis is very poor.

Do try to persuade your Mum to go; the screening programme is there for a very good reason.

Try to make her go-drag her there if you must!I never felt my lump but it showed up on a routine mammo-it hadnt spread but I still needed chemo as well as an op.Tell your mum her life could be at risk if she doesnt have a mammo...though I am sure she knows that.

By the way a private appt means results on the spot or you may have a local 'one stop' clinic where you dont wait for results if that's the problem.I pay about £160 for mammo+ appt with surgeon an hour later.I pay because I am too nervous to cope with wait for results.

Thank you all for your responses on this thread, it's really appreciated.

Pranma the private appt sounds like a good option wrt the waiting for results