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to want to go out clubbing?

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Lozza83 · 12/03/2011 11:48

Hi, I'm 27 a single mum to dd 6. Her dad has her every other weekend. I have been with my bf 4 months now who works every day of the week. we see each other most days as he'll come round before/after work depending on his pattern. Basically, when the weekend comes round that i don't have my dd i like to go out. Not to get drunk i enjoy pampering myself, getting dressed and making an effort and dancing my arse off when i'm there lol. Thing is, new bf seems to think that i don't need to do this anymore now i am with him. (i met him out but i wasn't actually looking for anyone at the time) I do enjoy spending time with him and going for meals and cinema but i live for the happy atmosphere of being out. It's the only thing i can't take my daughter to so i like to make the most of it when i don't have her. I didn't really do it much when i was younger as i had my daughter at 21, so its only the past year or so that i've started going out. I'm not looking to flirt or pull when i am out i am not a cheat he is more than welcome to come with me. Also, i know it sounds selfish but it isn't my fault that bf chooses to work every single day. does it mean i shouldn't go cos he is tired??

sorry for the ramble on but he makes me feel guilty every time i want to go out.

am i being selfish and unreasonable??

xx

OP posts:
ladysybil · 12/03/2011 11:49

no. he is

squeakytoy · 12/03/2011 11:51

You dont live together, so he really has no grounds at all to put any sort of restrictions on you. Sounds like he is a bit insecure, or possessive. Dont let him get away with being either.

Giving up your mates for the sake of a boyfriend is always the worst thing you can do. Tell him he either comes with you and has fun, or he goes home and catches up on his sleep. His choice.

lesley33 · 12/03/2011 12:08

No you are not. I would feel exactly like you. TBH I think a boyfriend trying to put restrictions on you like this can sometimes be a red flag for someone who is going to try and control you. Don't let him restrict your life or feel guilty for going out and enjoying yourself.

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