for not wanting to visit my IL's this weekend?

[maxpower]

Ok, so some background. Get on with MIL really well, have a tolerable relationship with FIL (but only for DH's & DC's sake). SIL & her DH are fine.

SIL sees MIL every week (she does childcare for her)

We live an hour's drive away from them. DH is a paramedic and therefore works a fairly heavy shift pattern which involves him working 8 weekends out of 10.

DH has been studying for exams since before Christmas (until he passed last week) so we've not really had any relaxed time together as a family.

We haven't seen his parents since Christmas. Due to DH's working pattern and having to be around to do school runs, we've not found an opportunity to go and see them. They virtually never come to ours (they did in December when I had DS but only stayed for 1.5 hrs) even though they're retired and have plenty of free time.

DH has a rest weekend this week (ie he's not working). He's already going out with friends tomorrow evening as one of our friends has just returned from 3 years in Thailand - which is fine. But he's just called to speak to his parents (who returned from 2wks in Trinidad today) and told them we'll go and see them on Sunday. I've agreed, but I'm pissed off - but AIBU?

And have a few to ease your consience at cope with the big chill

i can dream gorgeous, I can dream....

ON the already (hehehehe)

Me too Well chilled 'cos we're not due another visit for ages

Max you deserve more the just a, just a thought what kind of week did your DH have at work, my DP had a bad week with dealing with elderly people being DOA and he really made the effort to see his Dad and Grandparents [his Mum lives with us]
Week before that it was young children and ours were sat down to have the whole safe cross code lecture

No, nothing too stressful this week. He had a diffcult call out the week before to a 19wk gestation miscarriage - the DCs got a lot of cuddles that evening.

That is so , it was a thought DP has had 3 really bad weeks and stress levels are not great and his need to be with family is huge, My Dad is the same [also a paramedic and a the 2 major call outs]and two needy men with short fuses as well as 4 DC is sending me madder then I was already.

oh god canyou I think you deserve the more than me! fingers crossed they have a couple of quiet weeks. it always seems they have a run of difficult jobs altogether, doesn't it?

YADNBU!!!! Go visit them another time after you have spent some time as a family. 3 months? You are a saint!

My dh is a copper and im a sw,we both work weekends so onre together is very rare and we often have visiting obligations to fullfill and its 2.5-3hrs away so involves an on stay too (or several if you are my freeloading pil) Its really hard i agree,i am going to start sending him on his own soon as they dont seem to have any interest in me anyway.You are most definately nbu,stay at home and drink more!!