AIBU to want to cancel holiday?

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I am due to go on holiday on Sunday. It is a five hour drive and we will be staying in a B&B. One of the primary reasons for going is to visit MIL and FIL who live a 5 1/2hr drive away, and will not visit us.

I have two dds aged 3.2 and 10m.

Dd1 has been dry in the day for six months, but two weeks ago started wetting herself frequently. She is not upset, and seems to be doing it purely to wind me up (it works).

At roughly the same time dd2 started crawling, and so getting dd1s toys much more. Dd2 has a fine selection of bruises about her head where she has been pushed into the wall, ridden on like a horse until her face was pushed into the hard kitchen floor etc.

Altogether dd1s behaviour is appalling, and we are not used to it.

On top of that my Dad had heart failure two weeks ago, he was sent home from hospital, but was admitted again last night because his diabetes had spiralled out of control. He has been discharged again this morning, but clearly is really unwell. I am very concerned he will die while I am away.

I don't want to put dd1 back in nappies, but I will be mortified if she wets in a B&B which I don't think is child friendly. However, I think I owe it to the other grandparents to let them see the kids, as we only go down 2-3 times a year due to the travelling/expense/none of us much liking FIL.

Should I cancel and save myself all the stress?

Yes.

On the basis of your dads health alone yanbu.

I mean, yes, cancel it. It doesnt sound like it is going to be much of a holiday, and your dads poor health is reason enough to want to stay close to him at the moment. Hope he gets better soon.

YANBU to want to cancel it but it seems rather a harsh punishment to cancel a holiday because of a few accidents- you say shes doing it to wind you up but shes only 3!

Cancel. I'm sure they'll understand. Put it to them as a postponement rather than a cancellation - say you'll try again in a month or so.

Hope your DD1 settles down for you soon.

Why not put her in pull-ups - she's obviously having a 'glitch' which will sort itself out eventually. And get really tough with her over DD2!

I wouldn't care about the potty training and wouldn't cancel a holiday for this.

But i would cancel if my dad was ill.

Is your daughter aware that her granddad has been very ill, and perhaps the accidents are connected to her being picking up on your worries?

Could your DH go with DD1 (in pull-ups) and you stay at home with the baby?

If not, YWNBU to cancel. If the PILs never make the effort to come to you, you shouldn't feel bad about not going to them when you've got other things on your plate.

Yes. The last thing you need is more pressure. It is perfectly reasonable to want to be near your Dad at this time.
Don't panic about the wetting. She will just decide not to do it anymore one day. Mine are all teenagers now, but I remember vividly what a difficult time I had combining small baby and toilet training toddlers.
Give yourself a break. x

Yep, agree with everyone else. Cancel because of your Dad, call it a postponement, and try again when things are easier all round.

I'm really sorry about your Dad.

YANBU - I would cancel if my dad was poorly like that.

Hope all goes well with him xx