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To only really go mushy over my own babies?

39 replies

littlebylittle · 10/03/2011 22:09

I am going to see friend with new baby tomorrow. Really pleased to be seeing her, looking forward to hearing all about it. But I never feel that excited about seeing the baby on visits like this. I hope I make proper genuine yummy noises, and that baby's gorgeous etc, but is there something wrong with me that I don't really like or get gooey about babies that aren't mine? Or is everyone who's ever made yummy noises and been desperate to hold mine been faking it!! Makes me a bit sad as our third and last is due in the summer and I can't bear the idea that that will potentially be the last time I get the scrummy new born baby holding feeling, that i never had until my first was born. Will hopefully be very ling time til grandchildren!!

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Bumperlicious · 10/03/2011 22:24

Nah, I'm not that big on other people's babies.

OTheHugeManatee · 10/03/2011 22:30

YANBU. IMO they mostly just look like Winston Churchill unless they're yours.

WinkyWinkola · 10/03/2011 22:31

I'm not big on other people's babies or children.

sunnydelight · 10/03/2011 22:31

YANBU.

BeerTricksPotter · 10/03/2011 22:34

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PickleSarnie · 10/03/2011 22:35

YADNBU. I try so hard to feign interest in other peoples babies because they always seem so genuinely interested in mine but it's so hard. I just don't think I'm a baby person.

gaelicsheep · 10/03/2011 22:35

YANBU. Someone else's baby has to be very cute before I can feel mushy over it, and there aren't many around. Like you I wonder if other people are genuine or not about mine. I think so because obviously DD is very cute. Grin So's her older brother, but there are very few 4 year old boys I could say that about!

Bellagio · 10/03/2011 22:36

YANBU other peoples babies can be cute but they will never trigger the same feelings as your own!

wideratthehips · 10/03/2011 22:40

does it depend on how broody you are for another one or if you are in the 'thank god i'm over that stage' of life? i think i'll be broody until my ovaries shrivel and turn to dust and my favourite stage is the newborn one, when they are all snuggly wrinkly with velvet hair Blush i do find it hard to get all worked up over other peoples babies but think its really important to make all the right noises and say wow you look amazing type thing (i hung onto those things after ds1).....okay i'm feeble but a complement goes a long way if you look/feel like a bag of shit!

bigbeagleeyes · 10/03/2011 22:40

I like other people's babie.

OTTMummA · 10/03/2011 22:41

YANBU at all OP, i thought i was the only one Smile
I try to sound as cooey as i can aswell, but it is fake most of the time.
Also the more i praise the baby, the less cute i usually really think it is Blush
I tend to have a fondness for babies around 3-5 months that will giggle at any random silly face i pull though, by then they have usually grown into their face Grin

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littlebylittle · 10/03/2011 22:41

What makes me broody isn't the baby itself, rather seeing the mushy look on the Mum's face. Either broody or nauseous depending on the day! I think I am horrible, actually!

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ZombiePlan · 10/03/2011 23:16

YANBU. I just don't think babies - other than my own fabulous one - are all that (I mean, they're ok, but I don't go all gaga over them). I do however tell the parents that, yes, they are adorable, even if they look angry, red and crumpled up like a bit of origami gone wrong (naturally, my baby was sooo gorgeous that no-one would've needed to fib like that).

A1980 · 10/03/2011 23:17

YABU

I bet you expect attention and mushiness towards yours though.

We're talking about babies ffs. Don't be so cruel. And yes I do like to hold and get mushy over other peoples babies.

Firawla · 10/03/2011 23:19

yabu, i like and am interested in all babies. obviously i like mine the most but still love to hold and see other people's. i find it a bit cold when people don't like babies tbh, but obviously that's your own feelings and you are entitled to it

Meglet · 10/03/2011 23:21

I'm quite fond of other peoples babies as I get to cuddle them and give them back. I don't have to do their nappies or stay up half the night with them.

MosEisley · 10/03/2011 23:24

YANBU. New babies aren't very interesting. I'd much rather talk to the Mum.

Older babies and children are much more fun and interesting to be around. Well some of them are.

I'm very glad that some people like babies though... thank goodness for kind and caring nursery workers!

A1980 · 10/03/2011 23:26

I agree Meglet.

Scarily on here, there are just as many people on here saying the same about older children. That they hate their DC's friends or they find friends children horrible and annoying. Shock

They're only children and I can't beleive the things that some people come out with towards their own friends babies and children on this site. It's horrible. Far from their being any sisterhood or empathy from one mother to another I'm acutally quite worried that if I ever manage to have children, most of my frineds will secretly hate my child and pretend to like them.

Everyone who says they aren't remotely interested in anyone elses babies or children and in some cases don't even like them: bear in mind your own friends probably hate your children too.

FabbyChic · 10/03/2011 23:28

When you see your own you fill up with love and bonding. When you see someone elses you wouldn't feel that because they are not yours, so you are not being unreasonable.

MosEisley · 10/03/2011 23:34

A1980, do you think you might be taking this a bit to heart?! I didn't see anyone on this thread saying that they 'aren't remotely interested' or 'hate' other people's children! Just that they don't feel especially broody over newborns.

OTTMummA · 10/03/2011 23:43

Calm down A1980! We, or I certainly don't have babies or children.
I love being around children, but tbh there isn't much to a newborn to anyone else than the family to me IYSWIM.
Im happy baby is well etc, but the newborn stage is boring! even with my own it was a a tad repetative lol.
I am the parent who is usually in the sandpit helping everyone elses kid make the biggest sandcastle, or even giving out HM cakes to all the nieghbour hood kids at christmas etc.
I am not an monster Grin promise!

OTTMummA · 10/03/2011 23:44

hate* i certainley do have a child!

BeerTricksPotter · 10/03/2011 23:46

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Joolyjoolyjoo · 10/03/2011 23:50

YANBU. I was never into babies before I had my own, and since having my own (who I adored, obviously!) it has surprised me that I am still not into babies (other people's)

I am polite and have a cuddle and say all the right things, but I don't really feel it, iyswim.

Now puppies on the other hand, with their gorgeous puppy smell, and their wriggly little bums- aaaaahhh!! I adore them!

BanalChelping · 10/03/2011 23:56

My babies are so beautiful they would make angels weep; your babies, for the most part, look like damp, hairless caterpillars Grin

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