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AIBU to think too ill to do school run then too ill

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justcarrots29 · 10/03/2011 20:01

to go out to the pub???

My husband was up last night with a terrible headache. Lots of painkillers finally began to help and he fell asleep. I on the other hand was worried as he had never had such a bad headache before and so didnt get to sleep for another 2 hours. Then my dd woke up with growing pains, ds woke up because he kicked blankets off then both kids up at 5.30 am - Goodness knows why.

Husband is off all week with HOL time. I work as a childminder and have 3x 2yrs and under all day. He didn't do anything except sit upstairs saying that they were too noisy. He was fine, ate lunch etc I asked if he would come out to do school run as I have more children to collect and again...he said NO - the light will hurt his eyes.

But somehow he is well enough to go to the pub now...drink beer and be merry having done sweet FA all day...I am livid. I have so far unblocked the outside drain, put out the bins, sorted through manky old rubbish for bin men, cleaned rabbit and hamster and done the online shop all whilst children slept and he made out he was too ill to move. Angry

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CrapBag · 10/03/2011 20:02

YANBU.

He is taking the piss!!

mmsmum · 10/03/2011 20:04

Maybe he needed a break, he took time off work but I don't see how that means he has to help you do your job

Cymar · 10/03/2011 20:05

Nice pun Crapbag Grin

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justcarrots29 · 10/03/2011 20:11

mmsmum- Not to help me the childminding activities - just to help around the house with the normal stuff that needs doing so I am not trying to squeeze it all in in the hour that the children sleep...

If he was ill then I would not expect anything but to play sick all day and then go to the pub....

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atswimtwolengths · 10/03/2011 20:12

It's his holiday time, isn't it? Give the guy a break and send him off (with your boot just missing his bum.) If he tries it tomorrow, though, the headache is from a hangover so ignore it.

Boohooyou · 10/03/2011 20:14

If he was ill why didn't you take all the children out to give him some peace?
Maybe that's why he's gone to the pub.

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justcarrots29 · 10/03/2011 20:15

atswinteolengths - Will do Wink

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justcarrots29 · 10/03/2011 20:16

Boohooyou - I was out at the park with the children for most of the morning so he could lie in bed and recover. I thought he was very ill...that is certainly how he acted.

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nora12 · 10/03/2011 21:31

Well I think it's out of order - I'd be having words (but probably tomorrow when he's sober).

manticlimactic · 10/03/2011 21:41

Hmm @ 'help you do your job!

differentnameforthis · 11/03/2011 03:50

What the fuck?

He has a few days off, so gets to swan off to the pub, laze around, do nothing? FFs, women have been told on this very forum to leave men over less! It is still his house, he is still able to work in it.

There is no reason she should take all her charges out to 'give him some peace'

He is well enough to go to the pub, he could have done the school pick up.

He could have cleaned the animals outs.

Sorry,. but I bet if the OP has a few days off, she doesn't get to do bugger all! I had an horrendous headache last night, but I had to get the girls their dinner, change them & get them into bed (dh working late).

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justcarrots29 · 11/03/2011 06:33

Thanks everyone - I had an early night last night and feel miles better. Husband came in at 1.45am so I guess another lie in is on the cards....
I was having a sound off ! Time for chat with the husband I think!

Thanks everyone!

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HecateTheCrone · 11/03/2011 06:42

He is entitled to a break. To laze around and do nothing.

And so are you.

So when do you have your 'laze around and do nothing all day break' booked for?

Bogeyface · 11/03/2011 06:59

If he is on annual leave then a certain amount of lazing around is ok, as long as you get a bit at some point too! But being asked to put the bins out and collect his own kids from school isnt an unreasonable ask. It was, when all said and done, a headache not a heart attack or something life threatening!

And whilst I appreciate that he may well have genuinely felt crappy all day, to then piss off to the pub after his miraculous recovery is unreasonable. Especially when the OP (who was working) was looking after him!

And to say that he shouldnt have to help him do her job, well no he shouldnt, but he made her job more difficult as she was having to consider him in her day too. There didnt seem to be any of the consideration coming back the other way.

OP, i would not be putting up with the lie in. If he was out until 1:45 then he is obviously fine and it isnt your problem if he is tired. I would go up with a cup of tea (lets be nice, after all Wink ) and say "SOOOOO glad you are better now. Here's your tea, the kids need taking to school in half an hour" :o

JaneS · 11/03/2011 10:54

Apart from anything else, he really should not be taking lots of painkillers and drinking!

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