To cut a long story short my widowed MIL has been living with us for the past four months due to her house being flooded. My husband is one of 3 siblings however the others do not live in close proximaty to her (one 30 miles the other 300 miles away). So we have her and she is driving me crazy and probably vice versa.
About every 4 weeks I go into meltdown (probably pms) and cant cope with her being there. We clash on childcare of course, I have one 7 year old son. She happily feeds him endless cakes and sweets, picks him up after school (I pay for after school care), spoon feeds him his meals when I am not there like a baby, etc, etc.
I have tried talking to her about the effect that all this is having on him. I understand that she likes to pick him up and he loves it, however when she leaves (if she ever freekin leaves) he will be devastated and will have lost the friendships he has formed at the after school club. The spoon feeding in front of the telly thing has basically led to him freaking out if I try and get him to sit down for a family meal and he is getting a very snotty attitude. I have sat in front of her, removed the spoon and had to shout at her to stop feeding him - even then she ignores me.
In normal circumstances we get on well and I am not prepared to have her stay in some grotty flat that the insurance company will pay for as I dont want her to be lonely. However my family and friends think I am being taken the p@%s out of and should ask her to move out (all along we though this would be 6 weeks max). I am at my wits end - any of you live with your in-laws?