to be delaying going to bed as DP hopes he's on a promise?

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Well I'm sorry but I just can't face going to bed. I don't have exhaustion as an excuse (although to be fair I am still breastfeeding once during the night)... I am simply trying to avoid sex cos I just can't be bothered and have zero sex drive 5 months after 2nd baby.
I have explained this to DP but I'm not sure he gets it as naturally he has his needs which currently I do not feel I can accomodate! As soon as the kids are in bed I'd rather sit on my arse for an hour watching telly or MNing etc.
Anyone else feel/felt like this after kids?

YABU to avoid bed rather than just telling him that.

YANBU to not want to have sex though.

Sounds like you two need some romance. It's hard to remember what pr-baby time was like when they're very small, but 'us' time can be so important in a relationship.

'pre' baby

yes, you need some romance! sex is not a job!

YANBU though

Night time can be the worst time when all you've got to look forward to afterwards is broken sleep with a night time feed.

Can you arrange some afternoon alone time at all?

OliPolly that is a good point as I think at the mo that is what it feels like! Maybe not so much a 'job' as in wash-up, hang the washing, tidy up etc but more like something on the list that I can sometimes feel obliged to do.

Romance time/alone time are possibilities but difficult to arrange due to full-time working, no support childcare wise etc although a nice idea we live in hope

YANBU breastfeeding zaps your libido, surely he'll understand that? Rid natures way of stopping you conceiving again :-)

Tis natures way (stoopid iPhone)

Trust your husband to understand - go to bed and have a cuddle even if that's all you want . Don't reject all intimacy just because you don't want sex.

oh boy, 23 years married and I hear you!!!
Don't have an answer - it just becomes a demand and chore after a while