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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Original poster

to wonder what all the Baby Name Urgency is about?

23 replies

ChaosTrulyReigns · 09/03/2011 14:26

"Arrgh. Please help we've got 37 weeks until DC2 is due, and we can't whittle down our shortlist. Do we go with a one syllable rhyming name to DC1's or go completely off-piste with a 4 syllable 'traditional' name? Please help, we are both losing sleep and its causing me great angst and indigestion."

(not a real C&P btw)

What's the angst?

Baby name Dithering? It's entirely possible to choose the name after the child is born. You will be allowed to push the baby out without having a name in place.

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allsquareknickersnofurcoat · 09/03/2011 14:28

We argued over baby names from waaay before the BFP. DH was insistant on Oyvind... We had maybe list six miles long, but nothing we could def agree on...

DH named DS about an hour after he was born. It was an okay name so I agreed

allsquareknickersnofurcoat · 09/03/2011 14:29

Maybe the lack of name was why he had to be ventoused out?

"nope, I'm simply not coming out without a name..."

PurveyorOfWoo · 09/03/2011 14:30

Chaos, what IS the matter??

OTheHugeManatee · 09/03/2011 14:32

Are you particularly bored today, Chaos?

OTheHugeManatee · 09/03/2011 14:33

X posted, purveyor.

Tell us, Chaos.

< tries to contort face into sympathetic smile>

caughtinanet · 09/03/2011 14:36

I think its an attempt to ensure a quote in the round up simply by overwhelming the boards with threads.

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ChaosTrulyReigns · 09/03/2011 14:44

at you lot.

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Psammead · 09/03/2011 14:46

Maybe some people just like to put a little thought into something as important as naming another human being HTH.

Not all of us just throw a dart at the baby name book, or pick whatever our fave sleb used

OTheHugeManatee · 09/03/2011 14:47

Your next step is to start combining non thread subjects. As in:

'When my baby is ventoused out, AIBU to eat the crusts before naming him?'

caughtinanet · 09/03/2011 14:53

Or "Does Fartbumsputum go with Hermione and Rastus ?"

GwendolineMaryLacey · 09/03/2011 14:56

Because, as I've seen on this site, some people can't decide on their child's name 9 months after the birth. How many times have we seen "can I change DS's name, he's 3 years old but his name doesn't feel right"

I never understand how the average couple who have roughly 8 months to pick a name are still faffing around when the child is close to a year. Just pick a name and use it ffs.

togarama · 09/03/2011 15:01

Hmmm. We deliberately decided to wait until DD was born and see what she looked like before choosing a name. She nameless for about 2 weeks after she was born.

The GPs and other relatives were all quite non-plussed, partially because they apparently didn't know how to address cards and cheques etc..

QueenStromba · 09/03/2011 15:28

I was "baby girl" on my first birth cert - took my parents ages to agree on a name.

BarbieLovesKen · 09/03/2011 15:37

Because, honestly, if I waited until baby was here he/she would definately be nameless for a long time. Im notoriously indecisive and worry alot and its very important to us that our children have nice names.

StormInaCCup · 09/03/2011 15:50

I am 27 weeks pregnant and have been discussing our baby's name with DH and family ever since we found out his flavour.

For us it was a real struggle to get pregnant (IVF baby following cancer treatment) and the pregnancy is high risk with lots of scary bleeds and scares.

Focussing on the incidentals such as name and nursery decorations has helped me keep positive (there WILL be a baby at the end of this dammit!)and celebrate the fact that we appear to be achieving what we consider to be 'the impossible'.

I don't see why someone excitedly debating the name/s of their future children could possibly bother anyone TBH. Unless of course they are planning to name their little one Chardonnay Versace Moonbeam...

MrsKarteDor · 09/03/2011 19:42

DD 2 was officially (well, by us) called Baby X right up until we had to walk into the register office.

Didn't bother me I thought it was funny but everyone else seemed to think it was a problem....

NinkyNonker · 09/03/2011 19:56

Because it's fun!

We had a shortlist and decided when she appeared.

NonnoMum · 09/03/2011 20:00

We like to argue over names whilst I'm in labour. It passes the time. Rather that then ask stranger on't'interweb what they think...

Bumperlicious · 09/03/2011 20:24

Well, because otherwise you kid yourself that when the baby is born you will 'just know', when in actual fact the baby won't look like any of the dozen names on your list, and you realise that saddling your child with the name Faustus for the rest of its life is just cruel.

You will want to discuss it with your DP but instead you spend the first week sleeping in shifts, barely functioning enough to talk to each other let along discuss the baby's name.

Your friends and family will text you every day badgering you about the name which in your hormonal state will make you even more stressed and embarassed.

One night while you are up with the baby you will come up with what you think is The Name, except when you tell DH that the baby is definitely a Rupert DH won't like it and says that The Name for him is Jack. You will cry every time you imagine your child with that name, and how he will be one of 17 Jacks in his class. DH will say 'Oh name him whatever you like if you really want to' which will make you cry even more.

Eventually just to please the 'well-wishers' you will compromise on George which neither of you hates, but a little part of you will always blame DH for not letting you use your name. For some inexplicable reason by the time he is 3 George will have acquired the nickname Alfie, which he will forever be known as until he changes it by deed poll at 23.

True story. Except for the last bit and the names

Moral: Pick a name while you can still think straight!

TarheelMama · 09/03/2011 22:09

I don't get why people say they need a name to "go" with the name/s of a child they already have. Why why why why? Unless the names rhyme, what difference does it make? Most names "go" together once you throw AND in there, eg Billy AND Maggie.

hardhatdonned · 09/03/2011 22:11

THere seems to be two ends of the spectrum on this...those that over think it and those that under think it.

Seldom am I coming accross a child with a normal "that'll do" name. Mores the pity.

Underachieving · 09/03/2011 22:13

Oi! It's the only bit of pregnancy I don't hate!

thefurryone · 10/03/2011 10:49

The only reason I'd like to at least have a list of names that DH and I agree on whilst I'm still pregnant is because I just know we're going to end up not naming It for about 3 months if we still don't have some kind of idea once it's born.

I do find the babyname part of the forum can be hilarious at times though, if only for the "I'd like to call my baby Jack threads" which always seem to have loads of responses along the lines of, ugh how common, that's tantermount to child abuse, have you considered Fartus?

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