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To want yo kill my mother for sending this text?

25 replies

DooinMeCleanin · 09/03/2011 14:25

The text said "Sis1 and Baby rushed to hospital. Baby stopped breathing. Let you know more when I do. Mam"

I couldn't pick it up straight away because I was at work, so by the time I rang back her phone was off. Sis1's phone was off. Sis2 was not answering.

I was stuck at work and had no idea what was going. What hospital they were at or how the baby was. I couldn't go anywhere. I was alone in the shop and didn't have the keys to lock up. I couldn't just walk out and even if I could I didn't know which hospital they were at. All I could do was feel a bit sick and panic madly.

Sis2 rang back after an hour to see why I ahd phond her so much. She knew the whole story and so had been calmly sleeping off her hangover.

Sis1 thought baby was having trouble breathing and so drove (not been whisked off sirens blaring in ambulance which is what I was imagining) to A and E to get it checked out as baby is prem and only 1 week old. Baby has reflux. They have been sent home with Gaviscon.

Baby and sis1 both fine and watching Cbeebies with nephew. I am still shaking. My mum doesn't understand why I panicked Hmm

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RJRabbit · 09/03/2011 14:27

Oh. I would kill her too.

EmmaBGoode · 09/03/2011 14:28

I would be really annoyed if my mum did that. You poor thing Sad. Glad the baby's fine, though.

mrslurkalot · 09/03/2011 14:29

No you are really not being unreasonable! Very thoughtless. Glad baby is ok x

onepieceoflollipop · 09/03/2011 14:29

She didn't think it through, did she? Perhaps have a quiet word about texting and when it is/isn't appropriate.

WassaAxolotl · 09/03/2011 14:30

You are most definitely not being unreasonable!

bibbitybobbityhat · 09/03/2011 14:31

Why doesn't she understand why you panicked? Is she spectacularly dense?

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DooinMeCleanin · 09/03/2011 14:32

Her excuse is she panicked too, but she thought I knew what she was like and I am the sensible one so she didn't realise it would upset me so much Hmm

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giliair · 09/03/2011 14:32

Oh god you poor thing. Why on earth did your mother not send you an update text?

medicalmayhem · 09/03/2011 14:32

Thoughtless, YANBU

Pilchardnpoppy · 09/03/2011 14:33

glad the baby is ok.
Why does your sis have a hangover with a 1 week old baby?

mylovelymonster · 09/03/2011 14:34

Completely thoughtless. What was the point of texting at all? Could she not have phoned you when they knew what was going on? Not unreasonable at all, although matricide probably stretching it a bit. :)

bibbitybobbityhat · 09/03/2011 14:35

Pilchardnpoppy

Read the op. Sis2 had the hangover, not Sis1.

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DooinMeCleanin · 09/03/2011 14:36

she did gilair, about 10 minutes after sis2 rang me back. My mum had been at work, so didn't hear as quickly as sis2 that they were home now. Sis2 had spoke to sis1 on the way to the hospital so knew there were no ambulances or resus teams involved from the start.

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Jaydles · 09/03/2011 14:37

Sister 1 has the baby, Sister 2 had the hangover :)

Jaydles · 09/03/2011 14:37

x post sorry

GoldenGreen · 09/03/2011 14:39

poor thing. glad the baby is ok.

My mum does this too - she has twice told me someone has been "rushed to hospital" when it turns out they have taken themselves to a walk-in clinic to have a cough checked out Hmm. On the other hand, when my dad was indeed rushed to hospital with a severe heart attack she waited DAYS to phone me. Crackers.

CheeseandPickledOnion · 09/03/2011 14:39

YANBU. I hate it when people do things like that.

Ephiny · 09/03/2011 14:50

YANBU. Some people just like to make a big drama out of everyday things though, out of boredom probably.

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DooinMeCleanin · 09/03/2011 14:58

She is known for this sort of thing so I should have guessed really especially when sis2 (whose only baby is a bottle of vino Wink) hadn't phoned or turned up on my doorstep in a panic herself.

My mother is very dramatic and panicky. She has done this sort of thing a few times.

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abenstille · 09/03/2011 16:15

YANBU Very dramatic. Demonstrate to her how that text should have read. Fear she'll not learn though...

Fimbo · 09/03/2011 16:22

Oh my mother loves to add to thinks for dramatic effect.

She phoned me one morning and told me that my dad was off to the hospital for a check-up as he head skin cancer on his head, this was the first I knew anything about it.

I was beside myself and burst into tears when I phoned dh, he was in the middle of a meeting otherwise he would have come straight home.

My dad phoned about 3 hours later, he did not have cancer at all, he had a spot that could have potentially turned into cancer. I could have cheerfully rung my mother's neck at this point.

Said spot has gone thanks to some wonderous cream and my dad has been discharged from the clinic.

saffy85 · 09/03/2011 16:24

YANBU glad baby is ok, albeit, uncomfortable.

my mum does this too. My sister had 10 missed calls on her phone the other other morning, all before 7.30am and a text saying "call me asap" (she'd missed them all as phone was on silent in her bag and she was getting her DC ready for school). She was worried sick thinking something awful had happened to our very frail granny, especially as when she rang my mum back she got no reply. Turned out my mum had wanted to moan about her heating not working. At 7am. Hmm No huge emergency at all.

God knows what she expected my sister to do, being 300 miles away and qualified in childcare and not plumbing....

MmeLindt · 09/03/2011 16:26

YANBU, of course you would be upset. What a daft woman.

My mum never bothered to let me know that my cousin's baby had been rushed to hospital when she was found not breathing.

MillsAndDoom · 09/03/2011 16:28

yanbu - she sounds like my Mum she loves drama

Northeastgirl · 09/03/2011 21:14

Mum sounds melodramatic. Agree you should tell her how worried you were.

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