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Original poster

to complain to school about the playground language the DS is bringing home?

51 replies

ChaosTrulyReigns · 09/03/2011 13:19

I would rather some words did not cross my threshold.

I know he's getting these words from a certain little champion in his class.

AIBU to bring it to the school's attention so they can stamp down on this unacceptable behaviour?

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PigValentine · 09/03/2011 13:20

What are the words?

meditrina · 09/03/2011 13:22

How old?

thx1138 · 09/03/2011 13:22

What would you expect the school to do?

Original poster
ChaosTrulyReigns · 09/03/2011 13:24

He's 4.

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Desperateforthinnerthighs · 09/03/2011 13:24

If it is happening in the playground they wont really be able to do anything unless they hear something....thats always the feedback I get anyway.

Dunno, maybe just a queit word with the teacher...my son obv gets subjected to words I would rather he didnt hear but I just stress to him that they are bad words, he is not to repeat them blah blah blah and all seems ok. Think thats all you can do really...he will hear swearing from now until the cows come home

BadBagel · 09/03/2011 13:25

Neither school nor you can prevent ds hearing these words but that doesn't mean you should allow him to use them.

wannaBe · 09/03/2011 13:28

there's really nothing you can do apart from to reiterate that he shouldn't use them.

meditrina · 09/03/2011 13:32

For children this young, I would mention to the teacher that there's been an outbreak of swearing. I would then leave the school to deal with it as they see fit (it isn't the first time and it won't be the last time they'll be faced with it).

PigValentine · 09/03/2011 13:34

It's my DS isn't it?!?! I've TOLD him to stop saying "bloody hell" repeatedly...

Original poster
ChaosTrulyReigns · 09/03/2011 13:58

I suppose there's nothing the school can do.

And I guess everyone has different standards as to what is acceptable?

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PigValentine · 09/03/2011 14:02

I'm sorry, I NEED to know that the words are. And not only to eliminate my DS1 as a suspect Grin

PigValentine · 09/03/2011 14:02

what

Original poster
ChaosTrulyReigns · 09/03/2011 14:06

Fart.

Bum.

Sputum.

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deliakate · 09/03/2011 14:08

yabu

MissVerinder · 09/03/2011 14:09

Lol @ sputum!

I think YAB a teeny bit U, to be fair. I thought you were going to come up with language that Mumsnetters would be proud of shocked about

Themumsnot · 09/03/2011 14:11

Sputum! Grin Really? That shows a considerable vocabulary for a five-year-old. YABU for that alone I reckon.

JenaiMarrHePlaysGuitar · 09/03/2011 14:11

Oh chaos, you're taking the piss. Aren't you?

Ooopsadaisy · 09/03/2011 14:11

Is that all, Chaos?

I realise these may not be words you want your dc using, but don't they all at that age?

I was expecting the full run of expletives tbh.

Having teens may have skewed my memory, but I think this is very normal 4 year old language.

Chandon · 09/03/2011 14:14

OMG are those the words!...

My 5 yr old came home with:

F%ck Shock
Sht
and told me what wnking was Sad

...also from a little charmer.

You're lucky you see!

Abcinthia · 09/03/2011 14:15

LOL!

I was about 5-6 when I came home from school and spelt a certain 4 lettered C word for my grandparents and asked what it meant. It had been whispered around the playground but no one knew what it meant.

Condensedmilkaddict · 09/03/2011 14:15

Those are the words?

Arf.

caughtinanet · 09/03/2011 14:16

Has he been brought up in a bubble? Grin

I can't believe there's a 4 year old in the land who hasn't uttered the word fart before starting school.

Vallhala · 09/03/2011 14:17

Chaos, you're bored, aren't you? Wink

DorisIsAPinkDragon · 09/03/2011 14:21

Ha ha ha dd (5) was really chuffed that I bought a book that had the word fart in it, my dgrandma (her GG) was more than a bit surprise when she got it read to her for wbd!

Mrsdoasyouwouldbedoneby · 09/03/2011 14:23

I spoke to th school when I saw the word, "brat" on their first words list (part of the reading system...), and felt embarrassed about doing so. I don't think it is a 'bad' word as such, just not suitable for out of context learning.

Anyway... my children say fart, I occassionally say it, try to say, 'fluff' but tbh they refer to the same thing.... And that doesn't need to be joked about... (but it obviously IS funny to lo's). Actually should be 'flatulence" shouldn't it?

Bum? Are you kidding.. in fact, isn't it a word some kids would say naturally instead of bottom? Better than arse, surely.

Sputum is a fab word, and way better that spit...

Poo is also a fab word that gets many chuckles... (rolls eyes)... it is also another word that crops up in the reading system (tho thankfully not as a one off word... "a poo at the zoo".

I often that all a slightly out there child comedian would need to do is say, "poo'... 'bottom', fluff fluff... farrrrt (with sound effects). Kids just roll around laughing... (again eyes roll).

Sorry tangent finished...

These words are pretty innocent, you won't be able to keep a straight face if you say these words to your DS's teacher, and TRUST me.... there are REALLY nasty words kids can come out with. The kid who is saying these things is not the one you need to worry about, he evidently has a grasp on 'humour', and is pretty smart... PLUS he is not really swearing.

Sorry... I have a 4 and 6 year old who regale each other with all these words.... I just look and say, "these words are not to be repeated elsewhere", while trying very hard to keep a straight face.