AIBU
To want to rent a house for my placement year?
Have name changed as aware the person I am talking about probably uses these boards.
Thought this would be a good place to ask!
I am 20, in my second year at Uni and recently had an interview for a placement year which seems to of gone really well- hopefully I will find out by next week whether I have been successful (If it has, I have effectively created my own job!).
The next thing I need to consider if my interview goes to plan is accommodation for the year. At the moment I live in halls on paper, but realistically spend 95% of my time at my BFs house (and have been since September, and have been living together successfully without any problems)
My mum seems to be very set on me not renting and having me stay at home at least 3 days a week and any time I try and deviate from this she points out that I would save money on accommodation- and acts like I'm being stupid to be considering renting a house with my bf (of nearly a year who she loves and trusts- this isn't the issue) and 2/3 other friends for the year, on a full time salary (probs about 12,000)plus DLA, so it isn't like I would be frittering away a student loan or anything like that, or even having to take out an accommodation loan for that year, therefore saving money in the long run.
She will try to present stuff as a choice, but it isn't really a choice because she will go "Its up to you" and then we will go round in circles discussing it all over again until I pick her preferred option.
My dad is very much in agreement with me- from my point of view, it just seems like the next natural step to independence, if it doesn't work out I have a guaranteed place in halls for my third/forth year due to my conditions if worst comes to the worst.
It just seems that if I don't take this jump now to live alone as a young adult and get some experience of organizing bills/rent/etc then I'm going to be living at home for ages after I graduate, and as much as I love my parents to bits, and they miss me, I've got to learn how to do this sooner or later!
My bf who is 22 is now feeling quite frustrated that my mum seems to be holding in the reins too tightly, and he has even talked about it with his mum who agrees she is being overbearing (I stayed with them over the summer so she knows me extremely well!).
I appreciate my mum has had to fight left right and centre for help when I was younger, but wish she would help support me in taking this next step.
I realise the mums will always have an invisible umbilical cord but wish mine would stretch a bit longer!
Or am I making a really stupid decision that I am going to regret?