to think life is too short to get wound up about little things?

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My mother calls it apathy, but I call it not sweating the small stuff! She is always on edge and I am far more relaxed and prefer being me, I am happier than she is by her own admission!

Is my life going to end because the person in front in the car is dithering at a junction? No.

Will the person in front of me at the till, who is taking their time and faffing about with bags and purses etc, change my life? No!

Is it worth having a 2 day discussion about having shoes on or off in the house worth the effort? Definetely not! (Yes that was tongue in cheek, I know I am on there too!)

I just think that there is so much angst and anger and stress around that could be avoided if people didnt take life so bloody seriously! Surely, as we are only here once, we should try and enjoy it? And if that means taking a deep breath and NOT biting off the head of the stupid person who delays us by 30 seconds in the course of one day, then thats a small price to pay isnt it?

Wouldnt we all be a bit happier if we appreciated every day of our limited existence and just ...let shit go?!

You've got a point there. I don't fret over small things. Now if my DC's were teetering on the edge of life and death then yes, I would fret hugely, but other minor things can easily be sorted with a bit of calm and logic.

Yep - so true.....my motto is "I never did mind about the little things" - life is too flippin short xx

Definitely.

Life is definitely too short

Absolutely. I struggle with it (suffering from anxiety at the moment) but 95% of the time I manage it! Sometimes I need to remind myself to chill though, but essentially both DH and I are very chilled.

YADNBU

I used to work with a lovely bloke who used to look at every issue with this in mind...'in ten years time, will this matter'

i thought it was really twee and used to get right up my beak....until i realised he was spot on.

I agree I try to live this way and manage it most of the time. Sometimes you have to stop when you are in a tiz and think about how important it is in the big picture! My health is on a knife edge at times so that keeps focused

You see I have this problem that "big stuff" I can get through remarkably well - it's the little "insignificant" things that throw me off course.........

You are completely right - but why are you on AIBU, which is almost all about small stuff!

YA of course NBU, in theory...

Some people like a dramatic life and so they will try every little thing that happens into a major drama
i myself like a quiet boring life and unless it was life or death nothing seems to wind me up,

YANBU - but I fear you've missed the point of mn!

YANBU

There is a lot of stuff that people get wound up about that isn't worth the energy expended on it! and a lot could be achieved by channelling that energy into something worthwhile.

On the other hand, to keep the carpet nice and the house clean - people need to take their damn shoes OFF

Mavis x

You're right, and all the examples you mention would be a total waste of energy and emotion, but of course people have different ideas about what's a little thing. Apparently little things can be the tips of massive icebergs. E.g. some people respond to criticism of language, or sexist or racist behaviour, by saying it's not worth getting het up about 'a word' or 'one incident', but these moments can be part of a much bigger picure.

So YANBU, but I can't quite endorse a blanket 'let shit go'.

But then what would we talk about on Mumsnet?

AlpinePony

cantspel - I would love nothing more than a nice quiet life

However when I was faced with my life or death situation then yes - I lost it briefly to start with - but by the next day was back in control again - apart from the fact that some kind soul had bought me a massive bag of value plain rice when they did some shopping for me in the hours after what had happeneed the day before............and I don't eat plain rice I always buy basamati rice or brown rice - and it was the BLOODY END OF THE WORLD.

ooo last half my last post - meant to say and they also bought me value chicken - I didn't know what to do with myself - ok less than 24 hours earlier I'd been seconds from death -but damn the fact I had value chicken and value plain white rice in my house was bloody massive (at the time )

A lot of people will focus on the small stuff as relief from the big stuff, which is either unbearably tragic or outside of their control.