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to think that the Smarmy Ywunts that make Parents' Consultations run 2 hours late

39 replies

BoredomTrulyReigns · 09/03/2011 10:36

are the sort of Superior Beings that have an inherent need to stretch out the time as much as they possibly can avidly listening to the plaudits for little Aloysius and Britney and actively encouraging longer conversations so they can indulge in their innate need to hear how precocious and advanced their wunderkids are?

FFS it's 5 minutes a child - not 23 minutes for charming anecdotes from pushy parents about how Asquithia and Braydon are going discovered the cure for celkulite whilst making Cordon Bleu pancakes?

And I know some discussions absolutely require longer than the allotted time, but it's the SmugIndulgents with their Superior Spawn that make me thunderily Angry.

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BoredomTrulyReigns · 09/03/2011 10:37

ffs those are long sentences.

[lost the plot]

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Awhiteelephantintheroom · 09/03/2011 10:41

Hahaha this has given me a much needed chuckle! I totally agree!

We went to parents evening last week; the teacher was running 10 minutes behind when we got there but as appointments are only 10 minutes long we didn't mind as we didn't think we'd be waiting too long whilst the parents in front of us went in. How wrong we were! 40 minutes later they were STILL in there. They don't have a problem child as far as I know, he's well behaved and reasonably academic, they are just typical "loud" parents, who I would imagine asked question after question about how they could help his reading, work to do at home etc etc etc.

Fernie3 · 09/03/2011 10:43

Just be glad they turned up at my daughters last parents evening i wa the first to turn up and found the teacher standing folornly by a lovely display she had obviously spent a lot of time on. I felt like hugging her ! ( i didn't)

welshbyrd · 09/03/2011 10:44

Perhaps they were late going in, due to a less Superior Spawn special needs update, took longer than the given slot, prior to their appt?

Maybe wrong, but I know from personal experience, I popped in to see my DS teacher, after school last week {not parents evening, just a quick word] and did not leave until 35 minutes later. I know this because my sister, was watching DD20mo in buggy outside the school

welshbyrd · 09/03/2011 10:45

meant to add, and sister was not impressed Blush

Pterosaur · 09/03/2011 10:46

I take your point, but it's up to the teachers to enforce the time limit. We have 10 minutes, and there's always a note on the form which comes from school saying that you must make a separate appointment if you need longer.

The only time we have ever overrun is with the teacher who set a kitchen timer for 10 minutes, then turned it off and carried on talking (I'd finished, to be honest) and the one who kept leaping up to look for DD's books ('I must just show you this'), which was quite endearing but not very organised. She was notorious for it, her evenings overran by hours and eventually the head took to standing outside her classroom door and timing the sessions herself.

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BoredomTrulyReigns · 09/03/2011 10:46

Erm welsh, did you see my third paragraph?

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manicbmc · 09/03/2011 10:47

This is why parents with kids on the SN register get regular termly meetings. I ended up missing out a few of dd's teachers because of other parents waffling on forever.

welshbyrd · 09/03/2011 10:48

Missed the Cordon Bleu pancakes part, I sympathise more, if they did not share them

cantspel · 09/03/2011 10:48

My sons schools asks you to bring your child with you to parents evening. I feel so sorry for the child of the pushy parent who is still bending the ear of their teacher 30 minutes after their appointment should have ended. You can see them sinking further and further down in their seats and their eyes glass over.

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BoredomTrulyReigns · 09/03/2011 10:49
Grin
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twolittlemonkeys · 09/03/2011 10:49

Hahaha I was kept waiting at Parents Evening last night by 2 parents who were very vocal in their praise of their own offspring (could hear every word from the next room separated by a closed door). Rest assured if you're assumption about them is correct the teacher is probably also sitting there trying not to show his/her boredom....

twolittlemonkeys · 09/03/2011 10:50

your assumption (!) what's the matter with my grammar today?

MrsPresley · 09/03/2011 10:50

Well after 23 years of parents evenings, I think I have it sussed.....

I always ask for an appointment within the first 30 minutes and tell the teacher that I have to be somewhere else so if it's not posible could I come in another day straight after school and talk to her then.

Up to now it has worked except once when I eventually told the teacher I would have to go home as I had waited almost an hour over my appointment time.

Awhiteelephantintheroom · 09/03/2011 10:50

I think you can generally tell which parents are going to be the ones going on and on at parents evening and going over the allocated time. They're usually the ones that get all competitive over sports day and are in the classroom every day asking the teacher for extra work as "Little Evelyn has done all this, she's so bright she'll get bored unless you push her". Plus the mums are usually terrible gossips and a large part of the PTA...

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BoredomTrulyReigns · 09/03/2011 10:51

Sorry, mistimed.

welshby the Grin was for you.

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manicbmc · 09/03/2011 10:51

I usually take about 2 minutes with each teacher (secondary). Go in, ask how dd's doing. If there's a problem ask how to help. Say thanks - then go. Teachers love me at parents' evenings Grin

welshbyrd · 09/03/2011 10:52

Did see you 3rd paragraph,
However, it does not make it clear, as whether the person is question was on time for their appt, or in fact the teacher was running behind, due to prior appts went on a bit longer than they should have

If the person was in there, that length of time, then yes it is a bit of a pain in the ass

haggisaggis · 09/03/2011 10:55

Our school has a system where if you go over the allotted time the school secretary knocks on teh door to kick you out. You can always make another appointment at a mutually suitable time to discuss your concerns fully.

GiddyPickle · 09/03/2011 10:56

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BoredomTrulyReigns · 09/03/2011 10:59

All our appointments are in the school hall where we also sit and wait, so it's easy to see who's taking the proverbial way over the alloted time.

It's also impossible not to overhear bits of the conversation (although by jove I try to tune it out) but that's a whole other thread. Grin

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olderyetwider · 09/03/2011 11:00

Love 'smarmy ywunts' are they twunts who holiday in yurts? Grin

jeee · 09/03/2011 11:03

You don't always know which children have problems which necessitate longer appointments,

BUT

The school should try to keep to time - if a parent does need (not want) longer, a second appointment should be made. When I was at secondary school, my school introduced a bell system to prevent overrun - sounds a bit OTT, but it actually worked.

diddl · 09/03/2011 11:03

But they can only listen to plaudits if teacher is giving them out.

If you´re really smarmy, you don´t go as the teacher has already phoned to tell you that your child is doing well, so it would be a waste of time.

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BoredomTrulyReigns · 09/03/2011 11:09

Blush at typo!

Alopogies.

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