Following on from the petrol money thread...

[TooManyBlossoms]

Sorry I know I probably am BU but it's really irritating me!

I'm at uni 30 miles away. I car share with another student who lives a couple of miles away from me, so I drive to hers and then we take it in turns to drive that day.

On the way to uni we make a detour to another village to drop her kids off at school, and to pick up another student - who doesn't drive, and doesn't contribute anything towards petrol money.

If I drive to uni directly from home, it's a 60 mile round trip. By doing this detour, it's an 85 mile round trip. Plus the journey takes 1hr30 as opposed to 40 mins.

I know overall I'm saving money doing it this way, but I can't help thinking I'm getting the worse part of the deal - after all the other student would need to do the longer journey to drop her kids off anyway?

Actually reading that back it does sound pathetic. Sorry.

Say petrols's gone up, can we share the cost?

Why does the other student you both take not contribute to petrol costs?

blimey seems like alot of detouring and you're already going 30 miles - can't you suggest the other girl takes her kids and picks up the other student then wait for you back at her house?

I'm not sure why the other student doesn't pay anything towards petrol - the girl that lives near me used to live in the other village, hence her kids being at school there, so obviously it wasn't out her way picking the other student up. But it is for me!

germajesty unfortunately when we have to be in uni for 9 we have to set off at 7 so that wouldn't work.

Don't really know what I can do about it; hey ho we finish in November so guess I'll just get on with it.

I think you should ask the third girl to contribute. Easier said than done though I know - I hate asking anyone for money.
Maybe bring it up along the lines of: "Petrol prices are really rocketting aren't they? It costs me £XX to fill my car up now. You know, I'm really noticing these extra miles on the uni commute, do you reckon you could chip in for some fuel?"
Good luck.

Ask the other driver why the third person doesn't contribute - it could be she gives money to the other woman - and then decide together how to broach it. I'm not sure there's a lot you can do about dropping off children but it seems extraordinary that this other woman may not be paying at all.

You need to directly & politely ask the other student to contribute to petrol costs. I find it incredible that they don't contribute already.

If you don't like to ask, find a time to fill up when the third student is in the car and as you get back in make a big thing of how its cost £50 or whatever and how you are now spending £xx a month on petrol. If she doesn't get the hint from that she'd have to pretty dense.

You need to ask her outright. If she hasn't offered by now then she won't take the hint I'm afraid.