to ask why some people are so negetive

[AuntiePickleBottom]

especially about mariage and children.

in work today and was asked how my wedding plans was going by a friend.
another women piped up and said, oh marriage changes your relationship and it's all downhill from there.

even when i was pregnant, there was alot of negetive remarks.

why do people do this

misery loves company.

Being married is ace. I love it, and I have 13 years experience of it. Not a huge amount of time, but enough to know what I've got myself into!!!

Because they're looking at it from their own experience/perspective.

And they're miserable Bastards

Because some people project; they don't mean to diminish what you're saying, they just can't keep from chipping in with their own experiences.

Congrats on your wedding!

Because their own lives turned out crap?

Some people like to think everyone else will make the same miskakes that they did and wishes other people were as miserable as them. Ignore them.

It's because some people have absolutely no social skills. Even if you've had a rotten marriage yourself, why would you want to piss all over someone else's happiness and excitement?

Worst one I ever heard was some old biddy who came up to me while I was out for a walk with my beautiful six-week-old twins. She said, with a face like she was sucking a lemon, 'Ooh, twins, how awful for you.'

I was so gobsmacked, I couldn't even summon up the words to tell her to get lost.

I think it's just something to say sometimes, especially to someone you work with & don't know very well. YANBU to be annoyed by it though. I find myself doing it quite a lot when people in work ask about my marriage & kids. I don't know why but I don't always want to share the ins & outs of everything or gush about how wonderful my life is so it's easier to make a lighthearted "negative" comment than get into something deep & meaningful!

And sometimes it's just the jokey stock resppnse that they heard thousand times when they were getting wed/married

I mean it's usually just something to say- be honest, if someone gushed

'oh wonderful, getting married was the best thing that happened to me, I used to be a right slag before I met my husband, but now- we've only got eyes for each other and the sex just gets better and better',

you'd back away smiling awkwardly right?

Snap picturerail , sort of :o

because it's true they are jealous

I think it's a bit of humour, a bit of banter and because some people just want to turn the conversation away from you and more towards them.

The question is, why would their negative change your view at all? Don't listen if you don;t like it. Just bloody small talk anyway.

I don't talk about my marriage or family at work any more, despite the fact that they delight me on a daily basis. I realised pretty quickly that however friendly I was with my work colleagues, they just weren't interested.

I listen to hilarious tales of their drunken escapades on a weekly basis, but this is acceptable because there is more than one of them involved.

Because she's probably under valued in her pitiful little life.

Marriage is fabulous and so is the support of raising your baby with someone you love

Congratulations on both! Enjoy it!