to think my mother shouldn't be moping like a bloody teenager?

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She's 55! It's my DD's 1st birthday today, my parents came to visit for the weekend (they live several hundred miles away), but she spent the whole morning with a face like a slapped arse because of some texts she was getting from the bloke she's seeing (parents are separated but still amicable btw). He's married, so the 'relationship' doesn't always go the way she'd like, and she's so bloody mercurial all the time because of it. She was surgically attached to her phone all morning, reading and sending texts. We went out for a walk with DD in the pushchair and she was moping along 5 paces behind us. I know our parents have lives too, and I don't like to see her unhappy, but I just feel that the happy occasion of her granddaughter's birthday could have cheered her up a bit. She's moodier than I was as a teenager fgs.

Ach, I'm just having a rant. Ignore me.

She sounds very like a pathetic teenager. I'm afraid I would have told her to pull herself together and be part of the family day.

:( Silly woman. I dont blame you for being pissed off. I would be too. She is selfish in many ways.

YANBU I'd have told her to pull herself together or sod off home myself.

YANBU. I get that your Mum's probably unhappy with the situation, but it wouldnt hurt her to paste a smile on her mush for the duration of her visit, especially for such a happy occasion.

Hi BMI YANBU, could she not take a few hours to just be with her GD and not stay glued to her phone like a love sick teenager? I think she was very selfish in not giving you and your DD attention, what does she expect when she is dating a married man?

Did you take some time out to chat with her about her life and (perhaps) why she is so lonely that she's having an affair with a married man?

She's having an affair with a married man?

well,

YANBU being unreasonable hopefully she'll come to her senses soon and be very remorsefull

lofty, my Mum and I have never really been able to chat about things like that. I usually hear things either from my Dad or my sister. She's always had low self-esteem though and can be quite self-absorbed as a result. She cheated on my Dad before they split up as well, which is another reason why I'm less than sympathetic, tbh.

I'd be tearing her head off if that were me tbh. How would SHE have liked it?

I hear that my dads Step kids are less than kindly to their mother, and I wonder if on some level it's cos she was the OW that wrecked our family. Especially as that is how she ended up on her own in the first place, her H left HER for an OW... so she went out, clearly and got herself a MM. My dad.

If my mum had done that, I'd have had strong words with her, even back then. It's not right, ever.

I'd give her a fair warning to put her knickers back on, and hunt out her dignity or I would smash that phone and take her to the train station.

YANBU

She sounds much like my mum. A terrible offender. I have no doubt she loves my DS but she is bloody useless with him.

I don't blame you being annoyed, and I guess it was embarassing too with others being there. With me and my mum often I am the parent and she the teenager, is your relationship like that? Sadly no amount of talking to my mum will ever change her and she can NEVER see her own faults so a few years ago I put some distance between us relationship wise and that has helped me no end, the trade off being that when she acts up I just have to ride it as I see her less.