To think DH needs to sort this out and stop frightening me?

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Since we first met he's had weird "episodes" in his sleep. We've been together for 9 years and married for 6...he has always had these episodes when he is asleep in bed with me and he will get out of bed and start pacing up and down the room agressively....or he'll jump out of bed and start kind of fighting something/someone that's not there...all this is at midnight or the small hours.

He has been known to pull the entire curtains off the window including the pole.

He had a nap just now because he couldnt sleep last night...and the next thing I know is that there's an almghty bang and a crash from upstairs and it's him...he'd fallen off the TOP OF THE DESK in the office. I went in and he leaped up and squared up to me! He woke up when I spoke to him.

He's done similar before. I want him to see the GP as in my opnion he needs a sleep clinic....we have DC and I am always afraid they'll wake up afraid...or they might get in his way. He is asleep during the episodes but looks awake...what are these? Night terrors? Sleepwalking?

He has also grabbed me in bed whilst asleep....he never remembers...this has only happened a couple of times.

I hate it. He doesn't want to see the GP for some reason.

My DH is a parasomniac too... though not as bad as your DH sounds. It's very common.

Get him to the GP and get him referred. There are all sorts of treatments and techiques to manage and reduce the problems.

Papworth Sleep Clinic is world famous

DS gets night terrors, he has no recollection at all afterwards. He only believed me after I videoed it and showed him. It's worth doing that as it will be useful for the GP/sleep clinic as well.

Get the idiot to a GP for treatment thats not normal sleep walking.

My DF has done stuff in his sleep but nothings happened for years, it's all stupid stuff, the most amusing one was running while still laying in bed and he can hold somewhat strange conversations while asleep (all ways with his eyes closed) like the one about taking pictures of hot dogs , he was in bed holding a make believe camera up and I asked him what he was doing "taking pictures" taking pictures of what? "hot dogs" I left it at that (after busting out laughing that is).

Apparently he used to sleep walk when he was a kid and once tried to climb inside the TV.

It could be epileptic episodes. He does need to be evaluated to ascertain what the cause of the sleep disruption is.

I get night terrors and have attacked DH in my sleep before. I also interact like I am completely awake but then the next morning have no memory of what has happened.

It is worse when I am not getting regular sleep and eating a poor diet.

His sounds more extreme though so it is good he is getting some help.

I am absolutely terrified when in the middle of one, it is horrible.

He needs to get this sorted asap as he is a danger to the dc when he is asleep with no control over what he does and there could be a terrible incident if he does not get this sorted

I dont want to sound dramatic but it is worrying that you have dc and like you said they could get in his way when he does this

Night terrors, I've done similar. Pulled a whole wardrobe on top of myself once, DH out of bed another. Terrifying, for both of us.

Not sure what the solution is, mine seem to have stopped after having dd.

Did this story not prompt him to get help?!

I have these too and I agree they've subsided since having my dd. I think because either I'm more exhausted or maybe I sleep lighter having an ear out for her.

I agree he needs to see someone. Does he never remember? I often rouse or my dh shouts at me and then I have a vague recollection. I can see why he won't go because when it happens you just laugh it off but evidently it's harrowing for those watching.

I've had it since a child. I know I've let myself out of the house before, but never fought anyone. I did once have an episode where a man had collapsed in tesco's. I ran round the room trying to resuscitate him and turned dh's light on. He sprang out of bed screaming 'my eyes my eyes'. I was screaming nevermind your eyes you heartless bastard, can't you see this man is dying.

I have a friend who's wife woke to find him inspecting beneath the bed with a lighter! Now that's scary!

he really needs to see the gp and be refered to a sleep clinic,my kids sleep walk etc worst time was when ds2 was sleep walking and he had got dressed put his trainers on and lucky for me came into my room and told me he was going to x house and he would be back later,its 12.30am!i had only just gone to bed so was awake,i hate to think what he would have done had i been asleep and not heard him :(

Wow. I had no idea it was this common. DH suffers from night terrors and years ago would wander around a fair bit. Once he pulled down a bookcase. He's also been known to empty the cupboard of saucepans to use them to fight off the crocodiles!

He hasn't done anything more dramatic than sitting up in bed in a panic for a few years. If he did, I would make him see a GP otherwise I would worry about leaving him overnight with DD on his own. I'd definitely follow up on the recommendations on this thread.

Good luck!

My worst one was being convinced the room was full of rats and that they were eating the baby. God that was awful, DH actually slapped me to get me away from the cot.

Changing my diet helped immensely, lots more natural foods as opposed to processed and it stopped.

I've seen this on the tv a programme about sleep disorders, get him to a dof so he can be reffered to a sleep clinic.

My DP has similar problems. The difference is, when he experiences night terrors, he's awake but... not quite, which it makes it difficult to distinguish. It's worse when he's anxious or ill.

It may be linked to stress etc, or then again he may be perfectly fine, and it's just one of those things. Definitely worth a trip to the doctor, they won't think you're mental, I promise!

If worst comes to worse, would sleeping in different rooms be practical?